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Something I have always been curious about throughout my history in dating is how soon is too soon to pursue someone that you might be interested in who is newly single. For the purposes of this question, let's assume that she had a relationship of at least a year, so relatively long-term.
Ladies, what is your take on this? How soon is too soon? How long is too long? How common are rebounds and do you think moving too soon gives the impression of a "vulture" like mentality with the guy?
Something I have always been curious about throughout my history in dating is how soon is too soon to pursue someone that you might be interested in who is newly single. For the purposes of this question, let's assume that she had a relationship of at least a year, so relatively long-term.
Ladies, what is your take on this? How soon is too soon? How long is too long? How common are rebounds and do you think moving too soon gives the impression of a "vulture" like mentality with the guy?
Ask yourself this, bro: do you want to be the rebound, or be with her long after she's had the rebound?
Rebounds are important. A short, rebound relationship is a healthy way to get over a long term one, in general. Without knowing the people and other factors involved, I'd say stay close by, play it cool, and wait for her to meet you half way. That doesn't mean wait to let her know you're interested. By all means, tell her how you feel! Being upfront and honest always works best. But you've got to be patient with a broken heart.
Ask yourself this, bro: do you want to be the rebound, or be with her long after she's had the rebound?
Rebounds are important. A short, rebound relationship is a healthy way to get over a long term one, in general. Without knowing the people and other factors involved, I'd say stay close by, play it cool, and wait for her to meet you half way. That doesn't mean wait to let her know you're interested. By all means, tell her how you feel! Being upfront and honest always works best. But you've got to be patient with a broken heart.
Really? healthy?
Don't you need some time to reflect, and assess what went right, and what went wrong?
A year is a considerable time, some people are engaged to be married in less then a year.
I am not attacking you here, I just don't agree that rebounds are healthy. Do they "help" ? Yes, but not in the "right" way. to me rebounds only distract your head and heart from the pain of a failed relationship. Then one rebounds, and then one probably quickly gets into datin or another relationship, without ever really building themself up from the inside.
How can one ever truely become a better partner if failed relationship after failed relationship never has a lesson learned? Maybe I'm too old fashioned....
Do you know the boyfriend, or are you friends with him? If so, then probably never...unless she's REALLY hot, then maybe 6 months.
Otherwise, whenever you get the chance. Not every woman who breaks up with a guy is an emotional basketcase, some of them are relieved to get out of a relationship and ready to move on. How will you know what the case is unless you ask?
Do you know the boyfriend, or are you friends with him? If so, then probably never...unless she's REALLY hot, then maybe 6 months.
Otherwise, whenever you get the chance. Not every woman who breaks up with a guy is an emotional basketcase, some of them are relieved to get out of a relationship and ready to move on. How will you know what the case is unless you ask?
Actually, I am not going through something like this at the moment. I just thought about it because I have had to deal with that a couple times in the past (I was just-friended both times.)
There is no set amount of time as all people are different. Some people jump in the arms of the very next person they meet again and again, and some take years.
Funny this subject should come up now. I have this female friend of mine who's notorious for just switching boyfriends without a moment of singlehood in between, and she's in the middle of doing it again. What makes it especially foolish is that she has two children. I've watched her long enough to know that if any guy wants a shot at her, his "best" option would be to ask her out WHILE she's got a boyfriend (something that would probably offend most women). I mean, this girl has a waiting list or something.
But of course, any guy who's known her as long as I have doesn't want her, specifically because she's prone to leave at the slightest obstacle. Who needs that?
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