Ladies, I Need Your Advice Right NOW!!! { please } (women, single, cheat)
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I think it's some what of a return to our primitive roots. We see another guy moving in, and we want to take him out of the equation. Thats another thing, I am actualy fine with the fact that she may not want to date "me" but I don't want her dating anyone else I work with either..... weird. Jealousy issues, I know.
Did you ever think that maybe SHE is attached as well?
Yep... thought about it, don't know about it.
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Or MAYBE she is there to actually do her job and doesn't want to be hit on
Yep, thought about it, so I haven't hit on her.Instead I wanted to just get to know her. With all the other hungry wolves out there, it seems to be survival of the fittest.
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Being friendly is one thing, but all you guys oogling over her is pathetic
I think it's just because I don't know if I have a chance or not. If I don't, fine, But it seems if I wait around I'm never going to find out. It's this whole competing thing that I hate.
ehhhh.... now that the adrenaline isn't pupming so hard, it does all seem a bit juvenile doesn't? Still though, it hurts she may not be interested in me over some other cheater. Guess there are just some things we have to learn to accept, this may be one of them. Like others have said, she's only been there five days, so I'll just wait and see what happens.
Thats another thing. Even if I decide not to ask her out for myself, should I still go up and say something like, "hey, that guy has a girlfreind.... just thought you should know"
I wouldn't do it. That makes you sound and look like a hater. Just sayin'.
If you did what you suggested in the OP, being direct, I would probably be dazed and confused for a bit but I would text you, even if it was to tell you that I would rather keep our relationship professional or that I would rather keep it a friendship.
If you just walked up and told me that the guy had a girlfriend, I would appreciate it and confront the guy (I've done this before) and I would know that you were a little jealous so I would know that you had feelings for me. So if you do it that way you win both ways.
I think that you should wait a little while longer. Talk to her. Invite her for lunch. Be casual first.
Ok, so this is a specific situation, so, obviously I have to give you the specifics for you to be able to give me a good and informed answer. Here goes:
this girl is absolutely gorgeous, and of course it didn't take long for the dudes to flock around her, catering to her every wim. Now I'm the kinda guy that takes it slow when I am interested in someone, getting to know them, having work related convos and light conversation about other things. I don't go it real strong because I am shy and thats just me. This approach however, is going to fail miserably because there is at least one other guy that is going at her pretty aggressive, and she seems interested in him as well. When it dawned on me that she was likely more interested in him then me, Im not even going to lie, it really hurt. At first I said to myself, .....**** it, I'm out and I don't even care. Trouble is it's sort of affecting my work and my mind is constantly thinking of her throughout the day..... Nice way to pass the time, but also less productive.
Ok, so this guy, really kind of like { as a freind obviouisly } but one thing about it is..... he has a girlfreind, and is still trying to put the moves on this other girl. Doesn't care either. The girl where I work, as far as I know, doesn't know about his girlfreind. So, I devised this plan in my head. I want to go up to her, MYnumber written on a piece of paper, and say,
" that other dude has a girlfreind and all the others have wives, so if you ever want to hang with a real man who's not a douchebag, text me sometime"
Hand her the paper with my # on it, and walk away. Would YOU find this to be a display of a lot of confidence, arrogance, or just plain pathetic?
hahahaha! That would get a laugh out of me, that's pretty cool, imo! What have you got to loose? Now bear in mind that you don't know much about her personality. Maybe she's really shallow and likes the other guy for his looks, his bravado, whatever. So if she blows you off, don't get bent out of shape. The other option is to watch her make her mistake by going with the other guy, get hurt, limp along licking her wounds, and by then, she'd be ready to talk to you. I kinda like the going-for-broke idea. It's daring. Just don't freak if she laughs at you or gives you a weird look, or you become a joke between the two of them.
Wow, you guys are just like moths to a flame, aren't you? A pretty butterfly flits past, and you don't care if it's venomous or not, you just want to go for it, come what may, and risk burning out.
ehhhh.... now that the adrenaline isn't pupming so hard, it does all seem a bit juvenile doesn't? Still though, it hurts she may not be interested in me over some other cheater. Guess there are just some things we have to learn to accept, this may be one of them. Like others have said, she's only been there five days, so I'll just wait and see what happens.
OK, now this shows some maturity. Besides, it's not like you HAVE TO HAVE this girl, or your life will be worthless. There'll be other girls. Maybe not drop-dead gorgeous, but cute girls who like your gradual, relaxed approach. And who have a good sensible head on their shoulders. They are out there.
The problem with asking point blank is that then I have to wait around a couple moments for the point blank rejection if it occurs that way. I don't like that. I know I'm a whining scissy but it is what it is.
Too bad. It's time to pull up your britches and be a man. No desirable woman would text you if you play it your way.
" that other dude has a girlfreind and all the others have wives, so if you ever want to hang with a real man who's not a douchebag, text me sometime"
Hand her the paper with my # on it, and walk away. Would YOU find this to be a display of a lot of confidence, arrogance, or just plain pathetic?
You would be what we all call a c^^kblocker.
He will not respect you and neither will she.
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