Children Yay or Nay? Or Undecided... (dating, married, woman, single)

[Raena77]

Many posters have stated they don't want children. I want to know who sees themselves having children or has them.

Would you want more or date someone with a child?

I would date someone with a child. And I'm aware of the responsibilties. I would date a divorced father or single father.

Would you?

Why or why not?

[WakaFlocka]

Absolutely not. Not at 24. If I had kids of my own, that would be different. But at this point, no.

[strawberrykiki]

I'm 99% sure I do want children. It's my strong preference to date guys without children. I'm selfish and I admit it, I want his attention focused on me. I also worry about drama from his children's mother, and that if he already has a few kids he won't want to have anymore. Never say never though. I wouldn't totally rule it out if I really liked him.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Many posters have stated they don't want children. I want to know who sees themselves having children or has them.

Would you want more or date someone with a child?

I would date someone with a child. And I'm aware of the responsibilties. I would date a divorced father or single father.

Would you?

Why or why not?

Not single but we have 4 kids, all planned.

I wouldn't mind more children if I didn't have to be pregnant with them. IF I were single/dating and he had children that would be a plus.

[JrzDefector]

Back in my 20s I could not imagine a life without children of my own. Now, I'm indifferent to the idea - if it happens, great but if not, that's fine too.

I like kids and am always sure to spend a lot of time with my younger relatives and my friends' kids. I get along great with them, and have no objection to dating men who have kids of their own. But I'm not going to reorganize my life or turn it upside down just to HAVE kids of my own. I will not obsess over landing a husband or extreme fertility treatments or frantically chase sketchy adoption opportunities. However if I actually had a child (or stepchild), then they would be my main priority.

I've decided that if I end up single at 40 and feeling like I really do want to be a mom and have not yet given birth or adopted with a partner, I will carefully begin the adoption process. I just don't understand people who feel like their lives will have been pointless if they do not reproduce biologically. It mystifies me.

[Philosophizer]

Hell yeah I do. The world will be a better place with my seed passed on. Not for another seven years though...

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by Philosophizer

Hell yeah I do. The world will be a better place with my seed passed on. Not for another seven years though...

Haha very nice.

[Red On The Noodle]

No kids for me. I never wanted them. I have twice in my life dated men with children and it never lasted very long. I was the one who moved on.

[90sman]

Would I date a woman who had children? Maybe, if the father weren't in the picture or was compliant.

But yes, I want 4 kids and want to have some within the next five years or so (after I'm married).

[BradPiff]

I'm not raising anyone else's kids. It's just not my place to do that.

I want kids eventually