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I just found out a good friend of mine from HS is pregnant. The guy she is pregnant by comes from a completely different background from her. She grew up in what would be considered an affluent upper middle class suburb, he grew up in an area that might as well be considered the murder capital of the USA(Chicago). She's used to being spoiled, and living a certain way. He has a completely different way of life. However he is nice to her and treats her well, they have things in common, he is going to stick around for the baby. They were only dating for about 4/5 months prior to the pregnancy(but they've known each other about a year so far now). The reason I'm posting this is because I've noticed a lot of girls of my racial background that grew up in a similar upbringing(upper middle, affluent) are dating or marrying men that come from opposite backgrounds but are of similar racial backgrounds. Because I have another friend, that was a college graduate, that married a man from a completely different background without an education. For me, just not having those commonalities seems like it would be difficult to sustain a relationship. But then again I know there are people who've made it work.
I'm wondering if these types of relationships(uneducated with educated, upper middle with working class, etc) ever workout?
I just found out a good friend of mine from HS is pregnant. The guy she is pregnant by comes from a completely different background from her. She grew up in what would be considered an affluent upper middle class suburb, he grew up in an area that might as well be considered the murder capital of the USA(Chicago). She's used to being spoiled, and living a certain way. He has a completely different way of life. However he is nice to her and treats her well, they have things in common, he is going to stick around for the baby. They were only dating for about 4/5 months prior to the pregnancy(but they've known each other about a year so far now). The reason I'm posting this is because I've noticed a lot of girls of my racial background that grew up in a similar upbringing(upper middle, affluent) are dating or marrying men that come from opposite backgrounds but are of similar racial backgrounds. Because I have another friend, that was a college graduate, that married a man from a completely different background without an education. For me, just not having those commonalities seems like it would be difficult to sustain a relationship. But then again I know there are people who've made it work.
I'm wondering if these types of relationships(uneducated with educated, upper middle with working class, etc) ever workout?
Classes are on their way out. Middle is disappearing altogether. Things like this aren't relevant and haven't been for a long time. If you love someone it will work out, if you want it to, no matter what.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no - just like any other relationship. Unfortunately - there is no magic formula for relationships - other than things like communication, trust, etc.
I just found out a good friend of mine from HS is pregnant. The guy she is pregnant by comes from a completely different background from her. She grew up in what would be considered an affluent upper middle class suburb, he grew up in an area that might as well be considered the murder capital of the USA(Chicago). She's used to being spoiled, and living a certain way. He has a completely different way of life. However he is nice to her and treats her well, they have things in common, he is going to stick around for the baby. They were only dating for about 4/5 months prior to the pregnancy(but they've known each other about a year so far now). The reason I'm posting this is because I've noticed a lot of girls of my racial background that grew up in a similar upbringing(upper middle, affluent) are dating or marrying men that come from opposite backgrounds but are of similar racial backgrounds. Because I have another friend, that was a college graduate, that married a man from a completely different background without an education. For me, just not having those commonalities seems like it would be difficult to sustain a relationship. But then again I know there are people who've made it work.
I'm wondering if these types of relationships(uneducated with educated, upper middle with working class, etc) ever workout?
Well, opposites do attract!
Common values are more important than common backgrounds, so yes, these kinds of relationships can work.
The cases I know of, the women have the higher education, the men all work in construction. Two of these relationships have worked out long term, one is on the rocks, but they're working on reconciling. In my observation, in all cases, the women are blind to the shortcomings of their husbands. But it works for them, so I guess that's ok.
Chicago is pretty awful. That and like Washington DC have something like the highest number of murders/ year in the US.
Let me look that up actually.
But yeah. Educated and uneducated end up marriend and living good lives all the time.
edit: Actually, according to about 10 minutes of searching, Chicago isn't on any top 10 lists of anything awful, and isn't in the top 25 cities.
But Cincy!! I live close to Cincy, and it's 25! lol
I mean the area that this guy is from is VERY bad, lots of shootings, robberies, drug-related problems, etc. It's for all intent and purposes the hood/ghetto.
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