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[quote=Yellow Jacket;25331236]I've never had sex without a condom. It's a catch 22.
If you wear a condom:
You apparently don't trust women and so they question why you are having sex with her.
If you don't wear a condom:
You risk getting her pregnant and if you do. People tell you to "Man up and take care of your child." Yet, you trusted the woman. There is no win for the guy.[/quote]
^^^^ You should wear a condom to protect yourself, weather it be 1) You don't trust the female or 2) If your not ready to be a parent, protecting yourself should be #1, especially if you just jump in the sack with whomever....eewwww
(bolded) Are you saying that if you "happen" to get her pregnant (which is ALWAYS a risk when having sex--protected or not ) that you shouldn't "man up & take care of your child"?!?! Trust the woman? Take some responsibility..it takes two to tango!!!!
It's easier for men to walk away, while the female is sitting alone, scared, body changing, getting prepared to bring the life of her (& his) child into the world alone...while the man can already be out there with the next girl not even thinking of what is going on, nor claiming, mind you, to the current girl what has just accured....sicking...little boys trying to do a man's business
There's a reason people shouldn't just be having sex b/c "they are hot", "I like her/him", "Horney"....promiscuous sex will catch up to you sooner or later & then finally it'll all make sense....
I'm just highlighting the hypocrisy that people (predominantly women) say. As soon as I say that I wear a condom because I don't trust her and I don't want to be a parent. They immediately say that I shouldn't be having sex. How is hypocratic when I'm actually taking measures to prevent.
Also, the man shouldn't always have to support the kid. There are cases that the women has trapped or violated an agreement or even raped to obtain the kid. Ideally, if the woman has the only say on what happens to the child. I think it's also fair that in the situation that she wants to keep it. A man can voluntarily sign over the rights and walk away scot-free. No child support, no visitation, child has no right to the man's estate (social security and other benefits) and no problems. I just think it's unfair that the woman has all of these choices. The man has none and then get vilified if they dare try to even the playing field. Don't even mention vasectomy because it should be considered permanent yet a woman can get pregnant easily abort it and get pregnant again.
It's disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on dating website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age. Maybe it's just me and my old fashioned views of having kids after say 25.
Something like half of all kids born to mothers under 30 are born out of wedlock. I'm sure it only seems like there are more single moms than dads because a lot of the dads are absent parents so they're not toting around their kids or claiming them on dating websites.
Between the failed marriages, relationships and multitudes of sexual partners for a certain percentage what would one expect, don't forget all of the STD's out there as a result.
That doesn't IMHO make every woman or man who has custody of their child(ren) losers or desperate.
It's up to one to figure out as to the "why" for each one though imo.
It's disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on dating website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age. Maybe it's just me and my old fashioned views of having kids after say 25.
But when that's your lot in life, you need to become content with it instead of railing against it. Being upset to be a young mother doesn't change the fact that she is one, so it's best for her and the child that she find ways to cope and be content with where her choices have gotten her in life.
It's disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on dating website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age. Maybe it's just me and my old fashioned views of having kids after say 25.
^^ I agree and yes it is disturbing....I know many that are content with being single moms....why not be? When placed (regardless of circumstanes) in the situation where your going to be a single mom/dad, you have two choices: 1) Learn to be happy in the situation and do the best you can OR 2) Whine, mope, groan, and be miserable- which therefore will lead the child(ren) into the same type of attitude.
It's not what most people would want/choose to do....but sometimes things happen and the best thing to do is make the best out of the situation before you!
One more thing... Real men take care of their kids, end of story. Guys don't just become losers and deadbeats as soon as the girl gets pregnant, newsflash...they ALWAYS WERE LOSERS. And a majority of the time the woman is OKAY WITH THAT. We can try to sugarcoat this all we want but it's the truth. It's only wen she gets pregnant and has the child when he walks out then the slander and all the acknowledgement of his bad traits come out to light. But it's too late then.
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) that you shouldn't "man up & take care of your child"?!?! Trust the woman? Take some responsibility..it takes two to tango!!!! 
