Those of you in dating mode, how often are you seeing the same person?

[howdydoody342]

any girl that has the book "the rules" please burn it and throw it away.. Most of the garbage in there is not true

[heartbrox]

I make my own rules soo.. it does not work though

Having said that I just laugh at those rule/system books for dating. Can't you make your own mind/decisions for yourself?

[AverageGuy2006]

Originally Posted by strawberrykiki

I try not to follow rules but after a date I like the guy to follow up later that night or the next day. I've wasted time with guys who showed only half assed interest and I like to be sure that the guy really is interested. If/when he does follow up I always answer the phone or text back pretty fast assuming I'm interested as well. After a few dates, then I'm fine contacting him or asking him to do things first.

Hmm, so even though I (the guy) pays for the date, plans it, and her and I appear to have a good time, you are saying in that situation that you still expect the guy to contact you first?
I never thought of it that way.
And I definately never thought that I would be half interested if I didn't contact her for a few days, especially considering I planned, payed for, and entertained.
I will keep that in mind. I guess the tough part is tying to determine how soon is too soon, and FOR ME, more than anything, is how to make sure I don't get taken advantage of. That happened to me not long ago, and it REALLY sucked.

[OdysseusNY]

Originally Posted by AverageGuy2006

I texted her around 2pm, and just said "hi, looks like we won't be meeting up today."
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How many of you that are just dating are on a schedule like this? I tend to think that if you are sincerely interested in someone, you will put in more effort and energy into seeing that person again. Or, has dating become THIS casual? Or is this more of a trend more exclusive to online dating?

i think you pretty much read it correctly 100%

i would suggest going forward to trust your gut more. you probably knew the real deal before the second date

it sucks but it's just the way it seems to be. i can't even fault people for it, because i noticed it both in others and myself. if you like someone you'll contact them more, and visa versa. i've seen it among non online daters too, and among both genders

once i realized this it stopped bothering me after a while. so it might get less frustrating for you

[OdysseusNY]

Originally Posted by AverageGuy2006

Hmm, so even though I (the guy) pays for the date, plans it, and her and I appear to have a good time, you are saying in that situation that you still expect the guy to contact you first?
I never thought of it that way.
And I definately never thought that I would be half interested if I didn't contact her for a few days, especially considering I planned, payed for, and entertained.
I will keep that in mind. I guess the tough part is tying to determine how soon is too soon, and FOR ME, more than anything, is how to make sure I don't get taken advantage of. That happened to me not long ago, and it REALLY sucked.

hmm... this i don't agree with so much

if you like someone why overthink who contacts who first. just contact her (after waiting some nominal amount of time so it's clear you're not needy or psycho)

i think if you had liked the girl in the OP more you would have contacted her sooner. it's not just a one way street

if you do go on a date with a girl and really like her a lot, for the love of god please don't wait 4 days or some such nonsense to contact her after

as far as who pays, it's just not worth getting worked up over

[Marc Allen 242]

Originally Posted by OdysseusNY

i would suggest going forward to trust your gut more. you probably knew the real deal before the second date

Yeah, go with instinct...I go on more first dates than anyone I know...and fewer second dates...why waste time?