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I don't care how old you are, how great you think you are, and what your situation is. If all you attract are people you consider to be losers, the problem is yours. Either you have lousy judgment or you expect entirely too much of those in your dating pool. Given what everyone else has said in this thread, you expect too much.
Me, I never lived at home again once I hit 19. However, I also went to college away from home, and so I dated students. You will, too, if you lose the immature "everyone who isn't like me is a loser" attitude. But to expect them to be living on their own and working and going to school with no help from their parents in this day and age, where it costs tens of thousands of dollars per year to attend, is absolutely ludicrous. It's just not reality for many, many people, well into their 20s these days, unfortunately. That's our current economy for you. It's much different than when I was in school, in the '80s.
If you're as wise and intelligent as you seem to think you are, you will use your college years to study more than books, and you will get an education about the world, the different types of people in it, what they have to offer, and what is important.
Start by learning that those who are less fortunate than you are not losers, and by learning not to be so nastily, petulantly judgmental. Really, the whole "loser" rant makes you sound like you're 14, not 18.
Thanks Ruth but people can't be "very" or "sorta" or "kinda" unique...
"Unique" is a binary condition and advice like yours implies that guys are ultimately interchangeable...
I didn't post anything about being unique. Must have been someone else's post.
The previous advice works great for a lot of college students. It may only be part of the equation here, but it's definitely part of the package for successful socializing.
Apparently, you wouldn't recognize one if you saw one
They are actually all around you.
Maybe she means the only ones who approach her are losers. So she needs to do some approaching herself. And to put herself in situations where she can get to know people first, before making a move.
When you enter College/University you will find many available non-loser guys, but you should focus on your studies.
I agree. The academic crowd has a higher percentage of non-losers than the random population. But college isn't all about dating. It's about getting a degree, hopefully one that will lead to a decent career. Plus the OP will also be working, if I understood her posts correctly. Dating can also be too big a distraction in college if falling in love gets involved, especially if a painful break-up happens. It can really sabotage your studies. To succeed in college, it's important to prioritize. I hope the OP can give us occasional updates once she starts college. Contrary to popular belief, it's not one huge party, and a big dating social whirl. I hope you find the academic side rewarding, OP. Stay in touch. Take care.
I stayed at home as long as was reasonable. Must be why instead of paying rent, I was able to retire debt and accumulate assets to the point that I pretty much pay cash for what ever is I want. What is your plan to avoid college debt peonage? You ought to think twice about the only baby boomers that are your allies because I assure you most of the others are your economic enemies.
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