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How about chewing tobacco i chew every now and then . It help me get things done like homework and gives my a buzz i like.
Chew? That's disgusting. You stick it between your lower lip and your gums so you have this giant bulge in your mouth and you have to spit all the time, often in a bottle so you're carrying it around.
Smoking is awful, but chew is downright disgusting.
Ive dated a couple, but they quit within a month or two of dating. I just gave them a hard time for it and voila!
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That is impressive.
After my last dating-a-smoker experience, I doubt I will date a smoker ever again.
Even if they try to quit, I get to deal with the withdrawal. And I dont wan to deal with that again if I dont have to. It was terrible. The rages that smokers go through while trying to quit is not worth it.
No, you're not misunderstanding this and, no, I'm not kidding. As a result of your post I lightly researched how often older adults start smoking and, though it's relatively rare, it occurs in large enough numbers to be a reality.
For me the worst part was "coming out" which was a slow process that was highly embarrassing as my former reputation was highly anti-smoking. I realize that everyone is different but for me the addiction crept up and is very powerful. I really should have known better but rationalized it all by thinking we'd actually quit, that quitting was her true intention. Worse, I didn't fully realize how the power that addiction would have over me, not to mention her. So, I've learned and have to eat humble pie as, even when I intend to quit it's become virtually impossible as long as she continues and, yes, she does, even to the point of encouraging me not to in various ways.
Look, I love her and now simply accept that this was my choice, though an ignorant one.
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I must be misunderstanding this? You went from a *non-smoker* to a *smoker* (forget about why) as an adult professional? My only question would be how you didn't choke to death as you were *learning*? I'm speaking as a former smoker...I can see getting hooked as a teen but not as an adult....c'mon, you're kidding, right???
It's not equivalent to "passing an STD on to someone" in that I chose to do this myself and have myself to blame. And, technically, it's legal where knowingly passing on an STD isn't. Yes, she encouraged it but I could have chosen not to go along. I was ignorant, though I thought I understood addiction. I didn't until I became addicted. I thought she could easily quit and didn't understand that, for some (and, yes, for me also) it isn't as easy as I once thought, especially when the love of my life is also a cigarette addict.
The only "advantage" now is that I'm not bothered by the smell and am truly empathetic to her and other smokers now where, before, I was arrogant and demeaning of smokers. I've learned to be humble and applied this in many other ways in my life. When I do quit, and I still have hopes on that score, this humility will serve as a life lesson.
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OMG what a horrible, selfish, uncaring, downright mean thing to do to someone. She encouraged you to shorten your life span then seems to take pleasure in your downfall. This is someone you want to be in a relationship with?
Wow, that's as bad as passing an STD on to someone.
It depends... would prefer a non-smoker but sometimes you don't get to choose who you fall for AND everyone has flaws/habits that you may not like or disagree with.
A heavy smoker would be more difficult for me to overlook.
I've never smoked myself and I don't like the way it smells but...it's not an absolute dealbreaker depending on the circumstances. So I chose "depends."
I could never date anyone who needs to smoke a pack of cigarettes to get through the day. I am very sensitive to smoke and I shudder to think what this constant inhaling of smoke would do to woman's ability to have healthy children. But I can imagine that if I were really into someone and she was a social smoker then it might not be so bad. Let's say if she likes to smoke a few cigarettes or hookah at social events then I could live with that. No more than twice a month or so... I occasionally smoke cigars as well, but probably no more than once a month...
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