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What exactly did she do or say that makes you think she may have a mental disabilty?
That's just it - it's only speculation until I ask.
However -
1. Only a high school education.
2. Worked in day care.
3. Talks about receiving a "check" each month so she doesn't have to work.
4. Says her parents set it up for her.
5. Lives next to said parent.
6. Numerous grammatical/spelling errors.
7. Wants me to stay at her place for the weekend.
8. Her logic is kind of off..
All that stuff, plus the vibe from talking to her..
That's just it - it's only speculation until I ask.
However -
1. Only a high school education.
2. Worked in day care.
3. Talks about receiving a "check" each month so she doesn't have to work.
4. Says her parents set it up for her.
5. Lives next to said parent.
6. Numerous grammatical/spelling errors.
7. Wants me to stay at her place for the weekend.
8. Her logic is kind of off..
All that stuff, plus the vibe from talking to her..
She is funny and fun to talk to though..
You are just getting out of a marriage, I wouldn't look for or expect anything serious to happen anytime soon.
Just because she may not fit your marriage type, doesn't mean you can't be friends or go out occasionally.
That's just it - it's only speculation until I ask.
However -
1. Only a high school education.
2. Worked in day care.
3. Talks about receiving a "check" each month so she doesn't have to work.
4. Says her parents set it up for her.
5. Lives next to said parent.
6. Numerous grammatical/spelling errors.
7. Wants me to stay at her place for the weekend.
8. Her logic is kind of off..
All that stuff, plus the vibe from talking to her..
She is funny and fun to talk to though..
Hmm...Well I guess 3 and 4 would really be red flags. And 6 and 8 would be close behind.
Well, I guess you can just come right out and ask why she doesnt have to work and gets a check. Maybe in a friendly way like " Wow how did you get so lucky not to work" or something. LOL I dont know...guess no great way to ask that than ...just to ask.
OP..let me add that this certainly doesnt make her less of a person. Just that if she does have something going on (specifically because you mentioned number 3 and 4) then you would need to decide if you are okay with it if you do find out she has a disability. If not, then you should be thinking of a way to exit nicely. Both of you need to find the right "fit". So, if something isnt for you, just be honest.
I actually had this happen too on POF. This guy sent me a message full or errors but just assumed he wrote fast and didn't proof read. However after a few messages a few things came out. He was 50 and had worked as a cook in a fast food restaurant for 20 years. Before that he worked as a dishwasher I think. He then mentioned where he graduated from and it is a school for mentally challenged people (I briefly worked there years ago which is how I knew). I did the coward thing and told him I found a boyfriend and I wished him good luck. I couldn't tell him that I couldn't date him so I made up a boyfriend.
OP..let me add that this certainly doesnt make her less of a person. Just that if she does have something going on (specifically because you mentioned number 3 and 4) then you would need to decide if you are okay with it if you do find out she has a disability. If not, then you should be thinking of a way to exit nicely. Both of you need to find the right "fit". So, if something isnt for you, just be honest.
yes it does. in the eyes of men yes it does. sorry to tell you this. they like to put themselves on a pedestal despite being rife with issues just got divorced, etc.
But you can't tell off the bat, one was even very pretty.
Besides, I already gave her my number before things became apparent....
She's actually funny and kind of fun to talk to, I just don't want to lead her on.
Did you tell her you have Aspergers or did you put that in your profile? Maybe she assumed you'd be accepting of her because of your own challenges.
It's best to be up front and honest in situations like these. All you have to say is "thanks for your time, I don't think we are a good match" and leave it at that if you'd rather not pursue things.
yes it does. in the eyes of men yes it does. sorry to tell you this. they like to put themselves on a pedestal despite being rife with issues just got divorced, etc.
I called her fun to talk to, and funny. Since when is that making her out to be less of a person?
For a relationship though - no. I'm attracted to intelligence..
I don't think I'm putting myself on a pedestal either by saying that..
I called her fun to talk to, and funny. Since when is that making her out to be less of a person?
For a relationship though - no. I'm attracted to intelligence..
I don't think I'm putting myself on a pedestal either by saying that..
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I forgot you're that guy on here with A.S. ugh. so nevermind.
lol @ at that second line and okay whatever you say.
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