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View Poll Results: What would you do?
I would add/message him that same day. 1 2.94%
I would add/message him a few days (weeks?) later. 1 2.94%
I would look him up on Facebook, and take things from there (based on his statuses and what-not). 6 17.65%
I wouldn't even look him up or add/message/e-mail him at all. 13 38.24%
I am unsure as to what I would do. 9 26.47%
I'm a guy. 4 11.76%
Voters: 34. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 09-16-2012, 08:02 PM
 
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I wouldn't even look him up or add/message/e-mail him at all since he's average looking and he complimented my looks likely thinking flattery will get his d*ck in my vagina.

I'm quite amused by guys who think appreciation and praise comes their way because they told me I was beautiful, gorgeous, or unbelievably pretty. In my opinion it's like a gal telling a guy 'I just wanted to let you know that you have a lot of money'.
Well ****. So what are you supposed to tell a beautiful girl? That you think her friend is hot? Just not tell her she's hot? Compliment her for her thoughts instead of her appearance.

For what its worth, most truly gorgeous girls know that they are in fact, gorgeous. They have to beat guys with a stick to keep them away. So maybe you are right. I'm gunna try this out next friday.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:06 PM
 
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Huh? I'm confused about what the question is. He indicated he was interested. You send him a message if you're interested. You don't send him a message if you're not. Am I missing something?

Edit: Of course I believe men should pursue women (he should have asked you for your number) but I think the fact that you're on the fence about whether you're attracted to him or not is what is making you even more confused about what you want to do.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:08 PM
 
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#1 I hate public polls.

BTW, Telling me to "take out my phone and call you" is NOT good because I don't know you yet. Why would I "follow your orders" and give a stranger my number??
Because i asked for it, which gives you a chance that i may actualy use it, and get you that much closer to receiving the gift. Much better than asking "how do you all know each other" (retarded) or asking "what type of yogurt do you like?" or some other nonsense. men are supposed to be direct not pussified.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:11 PM
 
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I wouldn't even look him up or add/message/e-mail him at all since he's average looking and he complimented my looks likely thinking flattery will get his d*ck in my vagina.

I'm quite amused by guys who think appreciation and praise comes their way because they told me I was beautiful, gorgeous, or unbelievably pretty. In my opinion it's like a gal telling a guy 'I just wanted to let you know that you have a lot of money'.
Seriously? Because he's "average" you won't even bother inquiring about a guy who approached you and was genuine?

Guess you're just going for the top 1% or something. IF he isn't just "average"
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:15 PM
 
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Well ****. So what are you supposed to tell a beautiful girl? That you think her friend is hot? Just not tell her she's hot? Compliment her for her thoughts instead of her appearance.

For what its worth, most truly gorgeous girls know that they are in fact, gorgeous. They have to beat guys with a stick to keep them away. So maybe you are right. I'm gunna try this out next friday.
I don't do 'what are you supposed to do' when it's not situations concerning legal laws or harming children/animals. In my opinion tell her whatever you want whether it'll result the way you want it to is a tossup.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:17 PM
 
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Cold approaches are really hard but they are kind of hard to get around if you're wanting to expand your possibilities.

Even though he didn't execute it perfectly, I commend him for doing it.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:21 PM
 
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Seriously? Because he's "average" you won't even bother inquiring about a guy who approached you and was genuine?

Guess you're just going for the top 1% or something. IF he isn't just "average"
Going by his words of "I just wanted to let you know that you look beautiful" seems he didn't bother inquiring about gals he thought were average.

His genuinity seems to be based solely on my looks and likely wanting to f*ck me. I can get that type of genuine ala being a stripper, pornstar, or prostitute.

In my opinion I'm likely going for the top 1% from my preferences to exclude guys with high levels of a misogynistic, hateful, bitter, or resentful attitudes towards women and in America.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:25 PM
 
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Going by his words of "I just wanted to let you know that you look beautiful" seems he didn't bother inquiring about gals he thought were average.

His genuinity seems to be based solely on my looks and likely wanting to f*ck me. I can get that type of genuine ala being a stripper, pornstar, or prostitute.

In my opinion I'm likely going for the top 1% from my preferences to exclude guys with high levels of a misogynistic, hateful, bitter, or resentful attitudes towards women and in America.
That's a good point.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:29 PM
 
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I don't think there's anything wrong with a man telling a woman that she's beautiful. Personally, I'd be flattered, not insulted.
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Old 09-16-2012, 08:31 PM
 
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Going by his words of "I just wanted to let you know that you look beautiful" seems he didn't bother inquiring about gals he thought were average.

His genuinity seems to be based solely on my looks and likely wanting to f*ck me. I can get that type of genuine ala being a stripper, pornstar, or prostitute.

In my opinion I'm likely going for the top 1% from my preferences to exclude guys with high levels of a misogynistic, hateful, bitter, or resentful attitudes towards women and in America.
I swear, if I could read your mind, instead of my first line saying "I think you're a beautiful woman" It would be something that interests you more before complimenting you on how you look or telling you that you should smile more often, it's a better look on you.

Not every man you come across that approaches you wants your clothes on his floor the first date .I've started conversations from using that first sentence "I think you're beautiful" and I've gotten dates. And no, I don't do ONS or expect sex on the first date or that night I'm talking to you.

I think you need to loosen up a bit, or you can always stay angry. Doesn't bother me, I'll keep smiling anyway.
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