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I'm not sure what the hell happened last night on POF, but I changed my profile picture yesterday, and I got 135 messages in one day. That is absolutely outrageous. I think there must have been some sort of glitch.
Probably a full moon last night. The wolves were howling at your picture.
That's funny, back in my single days, the women/girls would inquire as to the size of my bank account, car driven and income. - apparently money is also a religion. Then I'd play stupid and string them along the same way they strung the guys (i know 2 wrongs don't make a right). You should have sent him a grotesque picture of something, then given him the heave-ho.
I have never once asked a man about his bank account or income..how rude! I have asked about cars, but that's only because I'm a gearhead and it usually comes up fairly soon in conversations.
I have had men grill me on income and my bank account before though. I always found it extremely rude.
I have never once asked a man about his bank account or income..how rude! I have asked about cars, but that's only because I'm a gearhead and it usually comes up fairly soon in conversations.
I have had men grill me on income and my bank account before though. I always found it extremely rude.
I've been taught a persons income is none of my business.
For those who didnt bother reading the link I posted earlier, heres what was found during an exeriment:
Messages received after a week:
Messages received after 4 months:
I don't doubt for one second that women receive a hell of a lot more messages than men on dating sites. This is partially why sometimes I would check men's profiles and reach out to them myself instead of waiting for the right guy to discover me.
But I wonder if it tracked messages from individuals. It's very possible that more than 1 message to a woman came from the same person. I've seen plenty of times a guy will send a message, not receive a response, and then 3 days later send another message asking if the previous one was received.
That's funny, back in my single days, the women/girls would inquire as to the size of my bank account, car driven and income. - apparently money is also a religion. Then I'd play stupid and string them along the same way they strung the guys (i know 2 wrongs don't make a right). You should have sent him a grotesque picture of something, then given him the heave-ho.
I've never asked the men anything financial except perhaps what did they do, but not because of money. Rather I was either making conversation or screening them because certain jobs and me never got along. One guy I did send him a photo of an obese woman and said it was from my modeling career. I never heard back.
Seems easier to just meet someone through a friend or family member, or part of some kind of organization you belong to. You meet a better quality of people this way as well. Online dating seems like some kind of digital escort service. It's just low rate.
Online is a concessionary avenue towards relationship building. The rest is immaterial pantomime and windmill jousting. Even for attractive females with high volume of response, it fundamentally subordinates them vis a vis the females who do not need said avenue to receive validation from the offline real world perceived desirable male suitors who are her playground.
Work, schools and social circles...the rest is the alleyways. Stop banging yourself against the online wall or accept the concessionary nature of your interpersonal life. I quit the online self-defeating game, found someone within the mainstream 3 (work, in my case) and I'm extremely happy with the way my life is going after my divorce. Looking back at the years of online dating I just shake my head at the pre-sunk ship nature of those online machinations. I know some outliers find reasonably genuine relationships that spur from an online meeting, but I wouldn't certainly base the outcomes of the median on the anectodal successes of the few. The evidence of the aggregate lack success of online dating is pretty well documented IMO.
Good luck to all!
I quit online and am happier. Online was making me miserable and mean. I was attracting a different type of man online than I was offline and I would cry wondering if this was the best I could do.
Seems easier to just meet someone through a friend or family member, or part of some kind of organization you belong to. You meet a better quality of people this way as well. Online dating seems like some kind of digital escort service. It's just low rate.
I met a guy through people we know and both are involved in some of the same organizations. I am hoping he is the one on many levels, from we share hobbies to we know the same people and if we married we would save a lot on inviting people.
If your sister is attractive (in men's minds not her own) then fine, she should try it. if she's not it's a waste of time. the men do not read the profiles they just click through the pics and message the finest women on there. I got only 2 message from guys I would've considered, neither resulted in a date because they ended up insulting me.
the rest that sent messages were shady, didn't speak English, rude, or losers with nothing to show for themselves.
edit: oh there was one more I would've considered, but he told me he's the "kind of man that women dream of." And I didn't like that.
I don't know why some people act like online dating is for losers who can't find dates in real life. Online is only the medium through which people meet. All the people online are real people out there in the real world - they are coworkers, friends, etc. As soon as two people meet face to face the relationship starts to exist offline, and if they hit it off then who really cares whether they met on a dating website, at the grocery store, or through friends? If someone is creepy online they're probably creepy in bars and restaurants and at work too. If they solicit women for sex online, then they're probably out at the bar on Saturday night doing the same damn thing in person.
I haven't met a lasting relationship yet from online, but I have met some truly nice and genuine guys were not creepy, not shallow, and not just out for an easy booty call. They just weren't the right guys for me. And I have friends who met their boyfriends and husbands online. A dating website can be a great way to meet people whose paths you may never cross otherwise.
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Then I'd play stupid and string them along the same way they strung the guys (i know 2 wrongs don't make a right). You should have sent him a grotesque picture of something, then given him the heave-ho.
