Ladies who have profiles up on dating sites (boyfriends, man, husbands)
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Yeah, some people might mistake your abstinence for some kind of conservative or puritan lifestyle, when it is really health based. Did you specify that it was because of your allergies that you didn't drink?
Yep, I put that in my profile because I knew it would be an issue. It doesn't help for those who filter out non-drinkers, but I'm also the child of an alcoholic so I'd prefer someone who is a rare or fellow non-drinker.
Why on earth would you correspond for several months? I usually prefer to meet as soon as our schedules permit if a rapport has been established. Why drag it out otherwise?
Of course, I had a guy contact me who wanted to meet after one email exchange because he didn't want to spend his time exchanging "1,000s of emails." Yeah, I don't either, but I"m definitely worth more than just a couple.
He lived about 100 miles from me and he kept asking to meet but something in my radar was going off. He kept talking about me moving to his town, getting married then me becoming a housewife but I knew this wasn't my idea of a dream life. However because I wasn't getting more responses I thought this was the best I could do.
Online is a concessionary avenue towards relationship building. The rest is immaterial pantomime and windmill jousting. Even for attractive females with high volume of response, it fundamentally subordinates them vis a vis the females who do not need said avenue to receive validation from the offline real world perceived desirable male suitors who are her playground.
Work, schools and social circles...the rest is the alleyways. Stop banging yourself against the online wall or accept the concessionary nature of your interpersonal life. I quit the online self-defeating game, found someone within the mainstream 3 (work, in my case) and I'm extremely happy with the way my life is going after my divorce. Looking back at the years of online dating I just shake my head at the pre-sunk ship nature of those online machinations. I know some outliers find reasonably genuine relationships that spur from an online meeting, but I wouldn't certainly base the outcomes of the median on the anectodal successes of the few. The evidence of the aggregate lack success of online dating is pretty well documented IMO.
Even the religious sites were bad. I was chatting with this one guy for several months and it seemed like he wanted to get married. Then he started asking me questions about my body and requesting nude photos.
That's funny, back in my single days, the women/girls would inquire as to the size of my bank account, car driven and income. - apparently money is also a religion. Then I'd play stupid and string them along the same way they strung the guys (i know 2 wrongs don't make a right). You should have sent him a grotesque picture of something, then given him the heave-ho.
I'm not sure what the hell happened last night on POF, but I changed my profile picture yesterday, and I got 135 messages in one day. That is absolutely outrageous. I think there must have been some sort of glitch.
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Then I'd play stupid and string them along the same way they strung the guys (i know 2 wrongs don't make a right). You should have sent him a grotesque picture of something, then given him the heave-ho.
