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Mom and Dad are retired and in their mid 80's, visiting them is tough as they have no respect for each other and bicker and fight constantly, when no visitors are there Mom usually takes off from 7am till supper time where after supper they both retire to their own living rooms for the rest of the night.
I'd sure like to help them out with perhaps some counseling but i doubt they would go. their fighting also bothers my brother and sister but we arent sure what to do about it,even though they are in their mid 80's they are in good shape with no health issues so this hating on each other could concievably go on for another 10-15 years,, a shame 65yrs of marriage is reduced to this sorry state of affairs..
what to do...
I think they are old enough to sort out their own problems.
They probably love each other dearly. 65 years with the same face would be very trying at times, yet they also probably couldn't get by without each other.
Don't try and fit everyone into your own view of what's "right".
Honestly? They have had YEARS to make a decision based on happiness and what to do to strengthen their marriage and they are who they are...
Divorce is their when misery is more than one can bear but obviously they enjoy what they have..:/
I guess to them living in a state of constant strife and unrest is their "normal" so I am afraid but after so long? They are bound to what they want to do.
Thanks, i guess in a strange way if it aint broke dont fix it,,,,just hate seeing them fight like that.
YesI know what you mean..
My b/f is manager of orchard hardware supply here in my city and he stated to me one day about his day.,.
He stated he felt bad for this elderly lady that comes into his work every other week with her husband and has been going into his work for years and even knows him by his name..
He states that her he can hear her husband yelling at her all over the store.”Where are you at? Hurry up” And her hubby walks fne even while in his 80’s and the wife walks slow , so slow it resembles a shuffle and she will state “I am coming, as fast as I can”
He stated that she will walk by him and she will say “Hi sam” with a big smile and then her hubby slammed into her with the cart and he yelled at her?
And she stated “Oww, she you hit me with the cart” In which her hubby stated “Well get out of the way” My b/f felt sorry for her and wanted to beat that man but stated “it obviously works as sad as it looks”
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