Would you date someone who has Asperger's Syndrome? (dating, boyfriends, married)
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I have Asperger's, and I have a more severe case of it. I have a lot of trouble socializing, I tend to say the wrong/inappropriate things without realizing it, and just about everything else that comes with Asperger's. I'm not stupid, in fact I have an above average IQ. I'm currently in school to pursue a degree to become a forensic scientist. Like most people with Asperger's, I have one main interest that I'm obsessed with. My obsession is with science. Often the only thing that I want to talk about is science. I'm 19 and I've had 2 short term boyfriends in the past, but both left me because of my Asperger's. The first because he "didn't want to date a retard", which is very inaccurate since I have an above average IQ. The second left because he couldn't deal with certain aspects of my Asperger's, such as the fact that I dont like to attend parties because of my lack of social abilities and my strict routines. My question is, would you consider dating someone like me who has Asperger's?
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Hi Meghan. I am not in the 'dating' scene, so I did not vote. My daughter has high functioning Aspergers Syndrome as well and is also very intelligent. I actually worry for her whether or not she will every really be able to have a relationship due to her socialization skills, or lack thereof.
I understand that she has a different thought process and just thinks of things much differently than others, and people just do not understand.
I think it is a bit difficult for people who do not have it or do not have experience with it to understand or deal with the behaviors/actions/reactions of a person with AS.
I have never wanted my daughter to have to change the person she is to accommodate other people, but I do try and do things with her that help her with her socialization skills.
To answer your question, I have a teenaged son with AS, I work with kids and adults with HFA and AS, but as far as dating one? It would depend entirely on the person, because, as with "neurotypicals", you can't lump them all together.
Edit: Bobman, I see you beat me to it while I was copying/pasting.
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As someone with mild AS, I found it more straight-forward to get intimate with non-AS females but I connect better and develop more meaningful relationships with other AS females..
I have Aspergers. I've dated several men who found my "quirks" cute. My current boyfriend says he finds me "fascinating" and that he's enthralled by the way my mind works. So, not only are there people that aren't bothered by it, there are those who find many of our traits endearing
Honestly, it probably depends on the quirks, and how good looking you are. If you're a drop dead gorgeous female, you'll have no issues. If you're a guy, probably much, much more difficult as you have to make the first move.
Would depend on the person, and how it affected our ability to connect. I've worked with people with high functioning ASDs for years, and can def. think of people I've worked with who I could foresee being able to negotiate relationships with others in the future, if, like would be the case with anybody, they meet the right person.
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I think anyone who would call you a 'retard' is just a pathetic person, be glad that you're rid of him. One of my friends, who I strongly suspect has Asperger's, actually recently got married.
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