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Any other bicultural people have a problem with not wanting to be with someone of either of your cultures as it's like "letting go" of the other side?
Any advice (from anyone)?
Also, assuming a person is from two cultures, x (from his mom's side) and y (from his father's side), typically, does he end up with someone of culture x or y?
Just a weird thing having to introduce to one side of your family a person who is "of the other side"...
(Particularly when people of both your cultures hardly exist...so that isn't a practical option either..)
I'm bicultural but in a different way. I was raised in a traditional household while growing up in America, and my parents have the same cultural background. I keep the good things about my culture and apply it to my life in America, but I also live by the (some) American culture to break away from the bad values in my culture. It's annoying having to balance both.
My friend is half Japanese and half Caucasian, but she's fourth generation (I think). She doesn't know much (or anything) about her Japanese side besides her relatives and that she's half Asian. I think she feels more associated with American culture. Not sure if I answer your question.
I'm bicultural but in a different way. I was raised in a traditional household while growing up in America, and my parents have the same cultural background. I keep the good things about my culture and apply it to my life in America, but I also live by the (some) American culture to break away from the bad values in my culture. It's annoying having to balance both.
My friend is half Japanese and half Caucasian, but she's fourth generation (I think). She doesn't know much (or anything) about her Japanese side besides her relatives and that she's half Asian. I think she feels more associated with American culture. Not sure if I answer your question.
For me it was the opposite, raised in a relatively modern household but in conservative Malaysia. I'm not really sure whether I identify with the Chinese or American culture yet. Like you said, it's irritating trying to balance all the pros and cons of each. I suppose this move to San Francisco is me attempting to reconcile the cultures.
You have to also consider that groups moving into the US arent exactly the same as groups already established in the US.
For example..
A child born in mexico but brought into the US at an early age will have experienced the world in a different context although his parents brought their personal values with them..Theyre not exactly equal. The parents are mexican..but the child into adulthood is really mexican american. His/her values will be different from that of his parents. its inevitable.
For me it was the opposite, raised in a relatively modern household but in conservative Malaysia. I'm not really sure whether I identify with the Chinese or American culture yet. Like you said, it's irritating trying to balance all the pros and cons of each. I suppose this move to San Francisco is me attempting to reconcile the cultures.
I think diverse area is the norm for me compare to living in a homogeneous area. For some reason it makes me even more aware of how Asian I am. The last time I felt this way was at college.
Nah you can still have both. Get a person that is open to both. There are people like that you know.
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