How to approach women in the bar/club (dating, single, dance)
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hello, I was wondering how do I go about talking to women in bars/clubs. I have several issues with this and due to the area that I am in, this is pretty much the only area that has lots women in a single place so I am really stuck with this as being my only option. I pretty much am confused as to how I approach certain situations and that is what I need help with.
FWIW, I have never taken home someone from the bar except maybe once. I am going there to basically hang out with friends and I am open to meeting new people and see where it goes along the way. Unless the woman really wants it, I am not looking to "hook up" or have "one night stands" unless she can really get me going in that direction, that is not my ulterior motive. My question is how do I show a woman that I am not trying to get into her pants? I know the bar is not the best place, but I really don't have many options here.
Once I can get that out of the way, my next issue that I have is the approach. Do I just go up and introduce myself? Do I make small talk? What is the best way to approach someone? I am outgoing, but I have problems breaking the ice. Once I do that, I am golden. What advice can you guys give me? Thanks
P.s. Even if I seal the deal and get her number, I always feel weird calling her..If i had met her anywhere else then it wouldn't be an issue, is that just me or what?
Do they play danceable music at your bar? You could just approach someone and ask her to dance. If it goes well, you could ask her afterwards if you could buy her a drink.
Do they play danceable music at your bar? You could just approach someone and ask her to dance. If it goes well, you could ask her afterwards if you could buy her a drink.
If you're good looking, you can pretty approach them however and things will probably work out. If you're not good looking, don't bother trying to approach random chicks in bars/clubs.
Do they play danceable music at your bar? You could just approach someone and ask her to dance. If it goes well, you could ask her afterwards if you could buy her a drink.
Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't and thats the problem when they don't then what do i do?
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Originally Posted by Raena77
I said this too.
you said you had moves that was it! lol, i mean so what do i do, just go up to you and start dancing? I thought girls hated that lol
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Originally Posted by bicoastal10
If you're good looking, you can pretty approach them however and things will probably work out. If you're not good looking, don't bother trying to approach random chicks in bars/clubs.
Well i think im nice looking and i get told im cute, have nice eyes, nice voice..etc, but in reality i dont have the best confidence, I think im average at best, and for every girl that says Im cute another 1 or 2 reject me so whatever that means lol.
ok so besides asking her to dance..if shes at a table with a group of girls..what do I go and say? thats kinda intimidating you know...
Wait until she's alone or only with one other person before you try to approach. Of course, this is assuming you're not a really good looking guy (good looking as in a legit 8+ out of 10 on nearly everyones rating scale). If you're really good looking, approach her while she's with a bunch of people, tell her you noticed her and wanted to introduce yourself, then ask her to dance if dancing is going on.
Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't and thats the problem when they don't then what do i do?
you said you had moves that was it! lol, i mean so what do i do, just go up to you and start dancing? I thought girls hated that lol
Well i think im nice looking and i get told im cute, have nice eyes, nice voice..etc, but in reality i dont have the best confidence, I think im average at best, and for every girl that says Im cute another 1 or 2 reject me so whatever that means lol.
Women reject men for pretty much the same reasons that men reject women. "He's not my type." Don't worry about it.
Try to hit the good nights, the dance-music nights. Find out from the bartender what's scheduled for the following week. No, you don't walk up to someone and start dancing. You ask if she'd like to dance. Don't freak if she declines. Retreat to your spot, and try someone else later.
Some women never go to bars, you know. What if some of them tend more toward the personalities you'd like to meet?
ok so besides asking her to dance..if shes at a table with a group of girls..what do I go and say? thats kinda intimidating you know...
Totally. It sounds like torture. I'd work the grocery store and coffee shop, if I were you. It's a lot more low-key and casual.
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