Can you talk yourself out of a good relationship? (friend, social, issues)

[reed067]

So I was talking this topic over with a friend of mine on here & I thought I'd pose this question to you all.
No matter how good said relationship is going, can you convince yourself to leave it for one reason or another?
Why do people do this? How destructive is this not just to themselves but others as well?

[rhacer]

Of course you can. If I wanted to focus on negative things instead of positive things I could easily talk myself out of any relationship.

[kimbo28]

It's also easy to be ambivalent about a relationship and focus so much on that, rather than improving things, that it ends up ending.

[intelfan11315]

Negative people do that with all aspects of life

[AverageGuy2006]

It happens all the time. It is called having commitment issues.

Or, it is called being a player/ socialite/ serial dater. Basically someone who just 'wants to have fun', but somehow found them self in a relationship.

Oh, and of course it is bad for the other person. You just talked yourself out of a relationship that someone else was probably taking seriously.... for no reason. It's pretty much blindsiding someone.

[dub dub II]

Originally Posted by reed067

So I was talking this topic over with a friend of mine on here & I thought I'd pose this question to you all.
No matter how good said relationship is going, can you convince yourself to leave it for one reason or another?
Why do people do this? How destructive is this not just to themselves but others as well?

Can I? It's like the thing I do best.
The question is how do I not do this?

Why do I do this? Beats me. It's not for me to know.

[Mandate_of_Heaven]

Originally Posted by reed067

So I was talking this topic over with a friend of mine on here & I thought I'd pose this question to you all.
No matter how good said relationship is going, can you convince yourself to leave it for one reason or another?
Why do people do this? How destructive is this not just to themselves but others as well?

You can talk yourself out of anything man, just focus on the negatives and convince yourself otherwise.

[stepka]

Originally Posted by dub dub II

Can I? It's like the thing I do best.
The question is how do I not do this?

Why do I do this? Beats me. It's not for me to know.

Why isn't it? I'd get help for that if I were you.

[Prince_Frog]

I can't. I know that if I feel like I'm part of a good thing, then I want it to continue, not shoot it in the foot.

[Raena77]

It's called fear.