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Finally it's weekend, I can do all the things I wanted to do all week long but simply didn't have time for that... and what am I doing? I'm sitting at home doing nothing but wasting my time and getting sad.
I feel so lonely I even started to sort out my old pics - with two of my ex bfs. I broke up with one of them about 9 months ago, with the other it's been about 3 years since I last saw him. Today I decided to check their fb account, which I haven't done before. So the ex from 3 years ago has a gf, as I could see on his fb - I saw their pics together and frankly, it didn't upset me at all, which is surprising but I guess after all that time t has no impact on how I feel. The most recent ex - couldn't find out much but I think I don't love him anymore, just miss him a bit... sometime, when I'm down like now.
Still, I feel so lonely now and I feel like crying. I miss having a bf, someone who would care about me and love me. It's been a while now since my last serious relationship and I had only one short fling. Now I'm back to being single. What's wrong with me? I'm worrying that I won't have a bf again :-(
If you attempt to secure happiness through another you will never find true happiness. It is an inside job, it all starts and ends with you. A BF is not going to resolve your "lonely" issues.
Get out with your friends and family, join a club, meet new people...sitting home feeling sorry for yourself is not the answer.
Dating is not marriage. Stop getting so attached to every guy you date. You don't need someone to make you happy. If you make yourself happy and an be happy while being single, that's going to attract higher quality guys to you. Real men like a confident woman with goals and a sense of direction.
If you make yourself happy and an be happy while being single, that's going to attract higher quality guys to you. Real men like a confident woman with goals and a sense of direction.
That's one of my problems, it may sound silly but I have no idea where to meet "quality" guys. All my friends - nice guys - are already taken. I can't just come to a guy I see on a street and start talking to him. I play tennis, enrolled to a course etc. but still can't meet a guy there. I can't wait until Mr Right knocks on my door, I know I have to go out there to find him but I really don't know where else to look for them.
That's one of my problems, it may sound silly but I have no idea where to meet "quality" guys. All my friends - nice guys - are already taken. I can't just come to a guy I see on a street and start talking to him. I play tennis, enrolled to a course etc. but still can't meet a guy there. I can't wait until Mr Right knocks on my door, I know I have to go out there to find him but I really don't know where else to look for them.
And NO, online dating is NOT for me.
Send a pic my way and maybe I'll come knocking on your door.
Yeah I think online dating is pretty cheesy and pointless and downright weird.
Finally it's weekend, I can do all the things I wanted to do all week long but simply didn't have time for that... and what am I doing? I'm sitting at home doing nothing but wasting my time and getting sad.
I feel so lonely I even started to sort out my old pics - with two of my ex bfs. I broke up with one of them about 9 months ago, with the other it's been about 3 years since I last saw him. Today I decided to check their fb account, which I haven't done before. So the ex from 3 years ago has a gf, as I could see on his fb - I saw their pics together and frankly, it didn't upset me at all, which is surprising but I guess after all that time t has no impact on how I feel. The most recent ex - couldn't find out much but I think I don't love him anymore, just miss him a bit... sometime, when I'm down like now.
Still, I feel so lonely now and I feel like crying. I miss having a bf, someone who would care about me and love me. It's been a while now since my last serious relationship and I had only one short fling. Now I'm back to being single. What's wrong with me? I'm worrying that I won't have a bf again
You are in good company here and I suspect you are more of a lurker.
Stop thinking negitive thoughts. Although you say otherwise looking up old BF's is not going to do anything for you except make you feel at least a bit sadder than you already are. There is nothng wrong with you and you appear to have standards as to being particular on who you go out with. Many are not successful in dating. I suggest you stop worring about it and do what you can to make yourself a bit more happier than you are now. Live for you!
With the right attitude you can do this on your own.
As far as your desire to have a BF I suggest to smile more and try approching other single men with small talk you may like. It's much harder for a man as they are always expected to make the first move.
FWIW it's been 5.5 years since my last relationship and I am living just fine. I'm better off now being single than I was married in more ways than one. There are women in relationships that wish they were in your place instead so that is something to think about. In other words, it could be worse.
I do miss being in a relationship but whether it happens again or not is not something that I am concerned with. Like I said it's all in the attitude.
Yeah I think online dating is pretty cheesy and pointless and downright weird.
I do too but I met someone really nice and now I no longer have a profile and that weirdness is out of my life. Besides, how could it be weirder than trying to solicit a date with a random girl on an internet forum where anybody can read it?
So online dating is bad but online advice is fine. Sounds a bit contradictory to me, but hey, what do I know.
It sounds like you don't really miss the person your boyfriend was, you just miss being with someone, which is infinitely worse, because that is an issue within yourself, not between you and another person. If you can't be comfortable on your own and in your own skin then you have some serious dependency issues. Dating and being with someone is not so you can get over your loneliness and be happy again, it's so you can share your happiness with someone and feel good about them feeling the same way.
I believe that everything happens for a reason people change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together - Marilyn Monroe
Send a pic my way and maybe I'll come knocking on your door.
Yeah I think online dating is pretty cheesy and pointless and downright weird.
Can we say...hypocrite or maybe poor sense of humor? You agreeing with her will not get you a date via online with her, especially when she just said she was not interested in it.
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