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My wife's in the Army. When we first met, she told me many times, I'm not getting in a relationship, because the Army is going to transfer me at some point.
I said "OK, I can live with that."
So we went through several months of not dating and not being in a relationship.
My wife's in the Army. When we first met, she told me many times, I'm not getting in a relationship, because the Army is going to transfer me at some point.
I said "OK, I can live with that."
So we went through several months of not dating and not being in a relationship.
So did you two just hang out for awhile? How long did you wait to ask her out?
I told her I really enjoyed talked to her and would like to continue talking to her in the future and possibly exploring something more than friends. To this she replied that it would not be fair to either of us since we would only have about a year together at school and that she wants to be able to fully concentrate on her studies at graduate school.
This is rubbish. The fact is, for whatever reason, this woman is just not into you. If she were, she wouldn't care about being able to "fully concentrate on her studies." If a woman really likes a man, she MAKES time for him, whatever her circumstances. Shame on her for not having the guts to be honest with you and not string you along this way.
Thanks for the replies. I know I can get ahead of myself sometimes. Really wish I could turn it off. It just kind of surprised me when she said she wasn't looking for anything serious and "I can always use more friends!" w/o me bringing up the topic. She just sent me it one morning. Anyways, she still wants to hang out so I'm excited about that. I really wish there was an easy way for me to keep my emotions in check and my head out of my ass. If anyone finds one, let me know.
Just relax, have fun and go with the flow. Remember that ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS.
Scopeland121..to me, she sounds like a very determined young lady with aspirations and goals that she wants to meet. She's made it very plain, and in a respectable way, that she has no time right now for any serious relationship...in other words, if you like her enough to be her friend, go for it (but if you go in looking for more, don't be hurt if it doesn't)She sounds like she'd be a real nice friend to have.
Scopeland121..to me, she sounds like a very determined young lady with aspirations and goals that she wants to meet. She's made it very plain, and in a respectable way, that she has no time right now for any serious relationship...in other words, if you like her enough to be her friend, go for it (but if you go in looking for more, don't be hurt if it doesn't)She sounds like she'd be a real nice friend to have.
If a woman was that clear to me about such relationship intents, I would treat her like I treat every other guy friend that I have.
That means;
Do:
do Go out for drinks with her.
do watch movies with her.
do hang out with her.
do even go to museums/shows/whatever with her.
do treat her like a buddy.
Don't:
Don't Buy her dinners.
Don't go to dinner with JUST HER.
Don't treat her any different that you treat a guy friend.
Sounds like you have a great opportunity for a good friend !
Have fun !
So did you two just hang out for awhile? How long did you wait to ask her out?
From the week we met we went out at least once a week. In her mind they were not dates. In her mind we were not in a relationship even though we were exclusive (without actually telling each other we were exclusive) about two months in our friends all knew we were in a relationship, she just didn't.
You either accept that it might never be anything more than a friendship and move on if that's not what you want.
Or you just hang out with her and be friends and see where it goes. If you get to know each other and click and she likes you, it won't matter what her plans were, she'll try to make something work.
I guess going to dinner falls under her definition of "remaining friends, and let the cards fall where they may". Maybe she just didn't like being put on the spot, or maybe she wants to take it slowly. It sounds like Mixed Signals City. Or Friends First City.
When a girl calls you "cute", it usually doesn't mean anything. This one doesn't sound like it's going anywhere. So unless you're in it just for the sex or companionship, I'd drop it.
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