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How many of you are or have in the past date, and/or get exclusive with no real intention of LTR?
As the subject states. I know people that 'date' for 3 years or longer. And they may be 'exclusive' from time to time but, it never really becomes a relationship, it is more of a FWB situation.
Some people give up on the idea of love, and LTR, but they don't want to be alone either. They have physical needs, and like to express those needs. Then they 'date' one person, but it is casual, and you KNOW it won't last forever, but 'right now' is ok. You might even use the term bf/gf, and of course there is intimacy, but you truely know, it's more a physical thing/ companionship, as opposed to love and actually considering the other person in your future.
This seems to be common from some people I know, whether they admit it or not.
Is this done on purpose most the time? Are ALOT of people just 'having fun'?
I know some people do this, basically a fwb that they know will end, but a lot of the time, they won't admit that is what is really going on. Of course, we have social stigmas, and reputations to uphold...
Oh, and me personally, I haven't ever become exclusive with someone without the intention of a LTR. That doesn't mean I have never been intimate with someone for fun, and with no expectations.
And the only times I have not eventually entered a exclusive relationship over a long stretch of time (say, 12 months or more) was more due to lack of options/ or even lack of interest from my part, call it what you will...
I may be exclusive to that person, only because I don't intend to bed hop, as long as they are being sensible what they do in their free time is up to them.
And I am not being judgmental here. Was just kind of curious.
I have noticed threads/ posts about giving up on finding someone, and unhappy single thread this, and unhappy single thread that.
Some of my friends date, A LOT. and they claim to want a bf/gf, but people with much more problems in life/ less attractive manage to settle down. These people may be single in their 40's, maybe because THEY CAN. For years these people havent had a relationship go past 6-12 months, and they ALWAYS find something wrong with the other person, "time to break it off...."
I multi-date with no intention of LTR as I see no benefit of a LTR for me.
I think dating and being exclusive without any intention of a LTR is done on purpose most of the time. In my observations gals are the ones who date without any intention of a LTR by keeping it casual and looking for some fun while guys get exclusive without any intention of a LTR by living in the moment enjoying the sex even having a title but no consideration of remaining with the gal in the future.
How about an exclusive relationship? Why put limits on it?
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