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To answer the topic: I don't feel like I have to dumb myself down since I don't think that being interested in a some subjects makes me smarter or dumber than someone else. I'll just try to find someone whose interest match mine. Even then, some people will surprise you with the kinds of things they think about and are willing to share with you.
To answer the topic: I don't feel like I have to dumb myself down since I don't think that being interested in a some subjects makes me smarter or dumber than someone else. I'll just try to find someone whose interest match mine. Even then, some people will surprise you with the kinds of things they think about and are willing to share with you.
There is a world of difference between having different interests and knowledge about different topics, and just plain acting stupid. Dumbing yourself down is acting like you're stupid in order to make someone "like" you. I question how long people who do this can keep up the charade.
There is a world of difference between having different interests and knowledge about different topics, and just plain acting stupid. Dumbing yourself down is acting like you're stupid in order to make someone "like" you. I question how long people who do this can keep up the charade.
Acting stupid is pretending like you know nothing about anything. It's going along with whatever the person you are with is saying in order to appeal to their ego.
Think of it in the terms of if you had an area of interest that you knew a lot about, and you go out with someone who has basic knowledge of the subject. When talking to you about that subject, someone who acts dumb would pull the, "wow!" act without contributing what they know.
I agree with Jobaba. I don't agree with you. IQ has been going up which is the Flynn Effect exists and why they continually keep having to make IQ tests a little more difficult every other decade or so. Outside of that, the things you just mentioned have little to do with IQ and more to do with just having a good education(being book smart). Even then I don't agree with you about people knowing less. With how widespread information and education is today, people are much more knowledgeable than they were a century ago.
My standards are higher. Following the completely asinine threads on this forum resulting from a generation of men who spend their time playing video games, beating off to online porn, and have no idea how to source their own noses, there are indeed numb nuts out there that many simply will not deal with. Like it or not. And knowledge/education (formal or informal) positively correlates to IQ.
So I had a conversation w/ a woman the other day, (she's mid 40's) & we were talking about men. I made the comment that the men I've come across seem to say that they want a smart women, but in all actualities- they don't. She agreed, & said that's why she's not even dating anymore. She said that men contradict themselves-- especially with this......
So my question is- have any of you had to dumb yourself down, or pretend that you're kind of naive- just to appease the opposite sex?
I think men are just turned off by women who feel the need to prove that they are smart rather than letting the evidence speak for itself. There are smart women, and there are women who tell you that they are smart (and of course some actually are smart and some are not).
Acting stupid is pretending like you know nothing about anything. It's going along with whatever the person you are with is saying in order to appeal to their ego.
Think of it in the terms of if you had an area of interest that you knew a lot about, and you go out with someone who has basic knowledge of the subject. When talking to you about that subject, someone who acts dumb would pull the, "wow!" act without contributing what they know.
Okay I see what you mean. Like feigning ignorance to make the other person feel appreciated.
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Originally Posted by Braunwyn
My standards are higher. Following the completely asinine threads on this forum resulting from a generation of men who spend their time playing video games, beating off to online porn, and have no idea how to source their own noses, there are indeed numb nuts out there that many simply will not deal with. Like it or not. And knowledge/education (formal or informal) positively correlates to IQ.
One thing I learned from dating is how much I hate it when people use their own perceived intelligence to stick their noses up against other people and think they're above them. I don't know what playing video games or any of that has to do with people and their intelligence or "acting stupid". The only thing I could see is maybe social and emotional intelligence. And knowledge/education does relate to IQ, but that's after the fact. You're not going to see a lot of high achieving or highly educated people coming from poor backgrounds where the're struggling to just get by and not learning about their food or architecture styles. Their priorities are different are so are their lifestyles as a result.
I decided to go by income level since that's the easiest and most broadest way to look at achievement without using anecdotal evidence. Most of the population does have an average IQ which is why I think it's pointless to get caught up in how knowledgeable someone is on a subject since they're backgrounds are going to influence what they know and talk about.
I was only about 4 or 5 when I realised I was vastly more intelligent than 99% of the kids I went to school with.
I've been dumbing it down ever since.
My act is so good that people actually do think I'm dumb.
It's funny to watch them realise how wrong they are, when I drop the act and let them see my real intellect. Eyebrows go up, and jaws drop.
It happens at work, and when someone attempts a serious conversation. Out it comes, it must be like watching Sybill.
BTW...I never, ever tease anyone for being dumber than me (CD excluded).
I have an older brother who is literally a genius and he is a wierdo...he is unable to "dumb it down" and as a result is now on his third career as a much-feared School Principal. Scary.
I think men are just turned off by women who feel the need to prove that they are smart rather than letting the evidence speak for itself. There are smart women, and there are women who tell you that they are smart (and of course some actually are smart and some are not).
Agreed and it what I was thinking about in the first sentence of my last post. I met someone like that and it was a big turn off. It also made me wonder why that person was so concerned about it in the first place.
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Scary.
