Most young women (age 18-25)... never upfront, flakey, don't know what they want. (dates, married)
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So you just want us to agree with you and stop offering advice ...
No. Sorry if I made it seem that way. I wanna see what people have to say on the subject, because it seems like for the most part, a lot of people on these boards are good at actually reading things through and making good points.
Chaotic, you nailed it in my opinion. I think that was a big problem with the girl I mentioned, always talking about shopping, work, her friends, she is on Twitter/Facebook a lot... just seems so preoccupied. I had a girl a few months back tell me I'm 'like the perfect guy' for her, yet she pretty much stopped talking to me, going on and on about how busy she is with her two jobs and not having the time... ookay. It can depend a lot on the willingness of a girl. In terms of women not having the foggiest idea how to be a decent partner/wife, well... not all women... but definitely less than in the past.
I really hope this does not turn into a men vs. women thing here though, I'm not saying men are saints and deserve a perfect woman. It can just be frustrating.
Question: did you 'go away' to college? or is this like a community college type?
Nice username to post content ratio. I don't mean to brag about myself, I'm not the best looking, most unique guy, but I got some confidence about myself, not overconfidence.
Nice username to post content ratio. I don't mean to brag about myself, I'm not the best looking, most unique guy, but I got some confidence about myself, not overconfidence.
You need to realize that a large majority of guys on the dating scene are exactly like you described yourself: 20, pretty decent looking guy, work out, go to college, have a job... there's got to be more than this.
There's also a good chance that these girls are just looking to hook-up, whereas it sounds like you're wanting to actually start a relationship.
I had a girl a few months back tell me I'm 'like the perfect guy' for her, yet she pretty much stopped talking to me, going on and on about how busy she is with her two jobs and not having the time... ookay.
Well, and that's the thing. When someone's life is all about them, they really are good for nothing. So they need others to validate them. They do this by telling you all about all the "important" stuff going on in their lives. Everything from their college classes, parties, clubs, their job, their trip to Europe, all their totally awesome friends, etc. etc. blah blah blah. Shallow!
You need to realize that a large majority of guys on the dating scene are exactly like you described yourself: 20, pretty decent looking guy, work out, go to college, have a job... there's got to be more than this.
There's also a good chance that these girls are just looking to hook-up, whereas it sounds like you're wanting to actually start a relationship.
Somewhat true, sort of goes back to my point about competition being tough.
Woah, the girl's looking to hook up, the guy's looking for a relationship? Interesting... don't know about that one. Usually seems to be the other way around. Sometimes I can tell a girl's intentions... the girl I mentioned, I wasn't going to be hooking up with her the first time hanging out, I could tell she isn't that type.
Well, and that's the thing. When someone's life is all about them, they really are good for nothing. So they need others to validate them. They do this by telling you all about all the "important" stuff going on in their lives. Everything from their college classes, parties, clubs, their job, their trip to Europe, all their totally awesome friends, etc. etc. blah blah blah. Shallow!
If they don't want a relationship though, you can't force them. But it makes it a waste whenever you're talking to them and they lead you on, then bam, not gonna respond to ya anymore.
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......she shows me some signs of being interested (calls me names like 'cupcake', tells me how she told her friends/family about me).....
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It's really all about the drama. If you can't create a steady stream of drama both negative and positive the girl will probably lose interest and find someone who can.
Calling a guy "cupcake" is not really a good thing. Guys who are cupcakes are too soft and sweet. I think creating drama would work, though personally it would be hard for me to do that, it would feel forced and phony.
Maybe just a little drama, not so you're like an animal trainer but more going out on hot dates, nightclubbing, attending Greenpeace demonstrations, river kayaking, whatever.
If they don't want a relationship though, you can't force them. But it makes it a waste whenever you're talking to them and they lead you on, then bam, not gonna respond to ya anymore.
Well, you're still really young. Understanding women is an art, and it takes time. Once you spend enough time around them, you will be able to sense true potential and availability within the first 30 seconds. Here's a couple quick pointers that you should apply no matter what. If you're talking to a girl and she glances down at her iPhone...walk away. If you're talking to a girl and doesn't smile at you at least once...walk away. If you're talking to a girl and she doesn't ask any questions about you...walk away. I've got more, but we can get to those later
If they don't want a relationship though, you can't force them. But it makes it a waste whenever you're talking to them and they lead you on, then bam, not gonna respond to ya anymore.
I think that many young girls like to be "entertained." One day they want some laughter, the next day they want some heartbreak. They want what they want, when they want it.
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