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You'd be surprised how many women there are out there who look hot, but used to be ... not. Same goes for men. Why advise men to hit the gym and get in shape, if women are going to be shocked and possibly put off to discover that their hunk used to be a blob? Why do any self-improvement of any kind at all, if this is going to be the reaction?
That's very true. I think you're definitely right.. I think it's something to look up to. Not too many people can really lose weight like that, or have the willpower to go through with it.
Chiming in as a woman, the only thing that *might* be something to look for, is HOW she lost the weight. If she simply exercises more, eats healthier/less portions/etc, then that's one thing, it's a good thing, a positive lifestyle change.
If she's a binge/purge/eating disorder risk, that might be a whole other can of worms. It doesn't appear that way from what you say, however. The other thing might be that she "overcompensates" now, and that may or may not be a big deal to you. I know a few people (of both genders) who have lost a lot of weight and gone full-circle where they hold an open disdain for anyone who is overweight now, and that annoys me. Again, OP, it doesn't seem to look like she does that either.
I say enjoy and proceed with only the same caution you would with anyone else. EVERYONE has a past, why is this any different?
Have you guys dated someone who used to be fat but lost a lot of weight (by working out and good diet)?
I guess, I meant to say.. would this affect you at all?
This is a tough one. Since there is no mention of illness we will assume she was fat due to reason other than medical issue. So she's healthy and has always been healthy.
I would have to consider her family as well. Does the "fat gene" run in her family? Is her mom, sisters and cousins all fat as well? Has she commited herself to leading life on the straight and narrow - eating right and exercising and REALLY REALLY REALLY paying attention to proper nutrition?
If she was fat for no reason other than being fed horrible food by her parents growing up, and being ignorant to proper nutrition and exercise, only to change her ways and becoming like a total Crossfit chick, being committed to life and lifestyle changes to make them permanent, then I would probably consider dating her. But she would HAVE to be like a total Crossfit, athletic, LOVES sporting activities, outdoor person.
If she lost weight due to surgery or she fails to show/prove that she is committed to healthy living/eating that I would absolutely NOT date her.
You know, now that I've thought about it a bit more, it could actually be a good thing. Still, she has to have made a commitment to her healthier/happier/more active lifestyle, but she will probably be more appreciative of all that she has (you, her health, energy, outlook on life, etc.) which would make her a dang good catch. She knows what its like to be fat, unhealthy, unattractive, slow, etc. so now, in her newer, better, faster, slimmer, hotter, fitter body, she will be more apt to maintain the healthier lifestyle because she's seen what life is like on the "other side" and probably wants to never EVER go there again.
You could be a very lucky man if this is the type of gal you've found.
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