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Every time I start to miss my younger days a little, a thread like this pops up and just like that, I'm cured! LOL
You are way over thinking this IMO. You are single. You don't owe anyone anything. Go on a date with A and see if you click. Just one date. Didn't he want to go somewhere this weekend? Go and see if there really is something there. Tell the other dude you want to take a few more days to think about it since the frequent long distance thing is kind of freaking you out. That wouldnt be a lie.
If you don't end up ruling out A after your date, then you can pick, but at least you can do it with more actual information.
He didn't exactly say " Don't date other guys" . He says, " Would you wait for me." , " Your not gonna date other guys, right" . Sorry if I rephrased it wrong.
That makes a difference. Seems reasonable. It would be tough to go on like that for years, but some people do it and are happy.
Honestly, I can't help but wonder if the OP isn't distracted with the attention, and is enjoying the flattery.
Relationships take time to build. B is at a disadvantage, and he knows it. Even if he's back in town for 2-4 weeks, a relationship can't be built under the gun like that. It takes time.
Yeah, I agree with this. I'm starting to get a vibe that B may be the controlling type.
Interesting. My vibe of "would you wait for me" went to insecurity.
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Originally Posted by Sunnydee
It sounds like guy B is more into you than you are into him. If you really liked guy B, enough to be exclusive, you wouldn't even be asking about guy A. That's my take on it.
Exactly my thought too.
OP, you've mentioned what B wants and that you don't know what A wants. You have a pull to both. What you need to answer for yourself is what do you ultimately want? Stability and someone who is already around? If that's the case, your choice may be C-someone who is not yet in the equation.
Interesting. My vibe of "would you wait for me" went to insecurity.
Could be. She won't know until she has a chance to get to know him better.
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what do you ultimately want? Stability and someone who is already around? If that's the case, your choice may be C-someone who is not yet in the equation.
This is good. You don't seem to lack for choices, OP, and you have plenty of time in life.
When neither A nor B is the easy choice, that means neither is the right choice or you need more time/need to get to know both better. Not brain surgery here.
When neither A nor B is the easy choice, that means neither is the right choice or you need more time/need to get to know both better. Not brain surgery here.
Whichever one will pay for all your dates and has hair.
Bravo!
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