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Not sure why that feels like pressure. Meet someone. Get to know them, feel them out. Establish some "rules" or at least a common agenda and proceed. Then nobody's confused about if they are in tehe friend zone. The hookup zone or the relationship zone.
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I think it's actually less pressure. I see people dating who both wait for the other to call because they're not even sure anymore who should call who, and people who "hang out" hoping it means romantic interest on the others' part but never being sure - in the old days it was much more clear cut and easier to know what the rules are, who was really interested, etc.
Yup. Much easier. You cut to the chase if you will.
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Why pay more (in your time and money) for something she gives away for free? Even if you attempt to date a woman like that to "get to know her", you feel like a fool, regardless.
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Whoa, whoa! "Dating" doesn't have to be about money, as the article mentioned. That has nothing to do with the "pressure" of asking someone on a date. Why would you feel like a fool, just asking her to coffee, or to study together?
Apparently the cost of time not spent hooking up is too much.
IDK.... I find the "hook up" culture sorta ugly..... It must just be me..... yeah, I know, guys get access to quick easy booty, but there isn't any thrill anymore, at least it what it seems like.
I've been out of the dating/hooking up thing for so long.
Thank god, actually.
If real life is anything like what I read here, I'd probably just go celibate and call it a day...
I do think there are SOME women that still think that way, but they are not the norm anymore.
Also, in my experience, many of the women that claim to still date traditionally and not hook up are usually not being completely honest.
Look, the fact is there are a lot of women in their 20's not dating at all because they're working on getting their career launched, and/or they don't get approached. (I know some.) And these are perfectly attractive women. Not 10's, but attractive. If someone is angry and bitter because of some disappointing experiences (not you), they need to cast a wider net. I can't help but wonder if this problem isn't the result of only choosing "hot" women. Oh, and did I mention that these women who don't have a different guy scheduled to bang her each day of the week are also nice, thoughtful, even sweet? Guys who complain there aren't any good women aren't looking in the right places.
Look, the fact is there are a lot of women in their 20's not dating at all because they're working on getting their career launched, and/or they don't get approached. (I know some.) And these are perfectly attractive women. Not 10's, but attractive. If someone is angry and bitter because of some disappointing experiences (not you), they need to cast a wider net. I can't help but wonder if this problem isn't the result of only choosing "hot" women.
It depends on one's definition of "hot."
I talk to many girls that certainly wouldn't be classified as hot (most seem to think they are though) and they generally have this attitude.
It's possible that this might be the case because I mostly date girls in their 20s. My experience with older women has been limited to cougars that clearly want to just hook up with a younger guy.
Look, the fact is there are a lot of women in their 20's not dating at all because they're working on getting their career launched, and/or they don't get approached. (I know some.) And these are perfectly attractive women. Not 10's, but attractive. If someone is angry and bitter because of some disappointing experiences (not you), they need to cast a wider net. I can't help but wonder if this problem isn't the result of only choosing "hot" women. Oh, and did I mention that these women who don't have a different guy scheduled to bang her each day of the week are also nice, thoughtful, even sweet? Guys who complain there aren't any good women aren't looking in the right places.
Wouldn't the hook up culture benefit these women so they don't get tied down and interrupt their studies? I'm not a fan of it, but it's not just the hot girls that have jumped ship on being courted.
I talk to many girls that certainly wouldn't be classified as hot (most seem to think they are though) and they generally have this attitude..
See, this is another thing. There are plenty of women out there who aren't stuck on themselves. I don't know why you (and other guys here, going by the complaints) keep running into these ego-driven types. As if all of American womanhood of a certain generation (or any generation, going by the complaints on C-D... ) were all cut from the same mold. You can see how ridiculous that idea is, right?
Yes, I read the article. Somebody asked what courting was, and I told what it ment. Courting back in the day was more than just picking up a phone. Please educate yourself. And for the record I'm glad that courting/dating in the traditional sense is dying.
In terms of the article in question, that is not what "courting" is.
Well the author of the article is a idiot, becuase that's not what courting is. The person should have used the term traditional dating.
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thing for so long. 
