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Am I wrong for this? Seems like in my dating life, women I'm attracted to, who I think are attractive end up being no good for me. However women who I dont find attractive seems to want to do everything for me. Like they have a lot of qualities they like, but I can't get over how ugly they are. I've decided that apparently the right person for me is a woman I'm not attracted to. But I feel if I dealt with a woman who is ugly, I'd be settling for what I dint want. I realize that this means a lifetime of loneliness possibly, but I'm going to stand my ground on this one.
If the chick had a bangin' 10 body (i.e. 36 DD rack, 5' 10" 130 pounds, perfect body) and an ugly mug, I'm sure most men after 6-12 or more beers wouldn't have much trouble having sex with this said girl.
Balance. There are some men who are validated by their trophy girl/wife. To that ......shut up, open your wallet, and pray that you never come across a day when you can't pay for all her shopping and bills because you will be replaced. There are some men that are 2's thinking they deserve 10's based on their leased/purchased bmw's. If all you want is shallow then click the seatbelt on your ride of being with someone who looks great but will never love you, care about you, or mirrors your love.
By the way are you the 10 that you seek? Nuff said
If the chick had a bangin' 10 body (i.e. 36 DD rack, 5' 10" 130 pounds, perfect body) and an ugly mug, I'm sure most men after 6-12 or more beers wouldn't have much trouble having sex with this said girl.
I'm thinking maybe after 4 beers...no, make that two beers; nah, who needs to get drunk to have a good time, just make sure the room is dimly lit!
If the only motivation is for sex, what do looks have to do with it ?
Why is it necessary to abuse some one elses body, for something you really don't care that much about, you could do on your own ?
Unless it is actually the abuse to some one else, is the whole motivation ....
What kind of realtionship can one possibly hope to build with some one on a perminant level , that has so little value for them selves as to be a slave to public abuse ?
I'm 33. And by ugly, I mean ugly to me. Which is a subjective preference. For example, I don't like blondes of any type or fat women. Both women seem to really like me, as they are the more supportive and caring. But it may be superficial, I can't get over their weight and/or blonde hair.
Okay, so we know now that you're throwing around the word "ugly" really loosely, out of frustration...
So we can all pretty much forget that word.
Correction: The only women you feel are attracted to you are the ones that aren't your type. Okay.
Well I think "like attracts like." They don't feel good about themselves, so they're settling for a guy (YOU) who doesn't appreciate them for who they are and uses them. You are using them, you know. You're not attracted to them, yet you let them get attached and do things for you... more for your own agenda than anything. To not feel alone, or for show, or to try and talk yourself into being less shallow. They're being used like guinea pigs or something. Same as you, they deserve to be with someone who is attracted to them.
As for you, there is some subconscious part of you who doesn't believe you are good enough for what you want or are attracted to. I think it's a subconscious fear of being rejected by someone you're deeply fond of/attracted to. So you're not actually putting yourself out there for the kind of women you want, on a vibrational level.
Essentially, you fear being in the same position as these blondes and curvy women you're not attracted to. But you don't mind being in the position of the one who isn't attracted. That feels like you're in control. It doesn't feel bad to feel like you're better than someone. I think inside you know you're not ANY better, but it's better to be with these women you have no feelings for than face the possibility of being rejected by someone you don't feel subconsciously that you're on the same level as (brunettes and thin girls).
Someone said something recently to me that made a lot of sense. "The Universe doesn't tolerate a vacuum." When it comes to the dating scene, you have a very crystal clear belief that "The women I'm attracted to don't give me the time of day, but women I'm not attracted to flock to me and want to treat me really well."
If you're not clear on your intent, the Universe will just fill your life with what you subconsciously believe. If you have no clear stance on something, that area of your life will just be filled with what you subconsciously believe. For example, if you're not sure what kind of job you apply for, but you're crystal clear that "it's a bad economy and practically impossible to find a job in this county"..... well guess what? Do you think you're going to attract a great job? Probably not, because you're not even sure what kind of job you want.
Bottom line, I think you need to start loving and nurturing yourself and creating new beliefs filled with integrity.
"I respect all types of women, and I love and respect myself. There is someone for everyone, and the women I'm attracted to are always attracted to me.
Start filling your vibration with that feeling and that belief.
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Do you think you're going to attract a great job? Probably not, because you're not even sure what kind of job you want. 
