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Am I wrong for this? Seems like in my dating life, women I'm attracted to, who I think are attractive end up being no good for me. However women who I dont find attractive seems to want to do everything for me. Like they have a lot of qualities they like, but I can't get over how ugly they are. I've decided that apparently the right person for me is a woman I'm not attracted to. But I feel if I dealt with a woman who is ugly, I'd be settling for what I dint want. I realize that this means a lifetime of loneliness possibly, but I'm going to stand my ground on this one.
If this is really what you think then do yourself and any other potential women who might entertain the idea of being in a relationship with you a favour and say single. You are right in the sense that if this is how you really feel deep down then most human women will not ever likely satisfy you over time and probably will end up emontially damaged in the hopeless persuit of satisfying your expectations. Your train of thought seems very shallow, but hey at least you are honest about it. Better to be honest then to have some person think you actually care about them and end up being heart broken.
I really wish people who thought like this had labels on them so other people that hugely dislike this type of mentality could just know off the bat to avoid them at all cost. It would be better for everyone.
Am I wrong for this? Seems like in my dating life, women I'm attracted to, who I think are attractive end up being no good for me. However women who I dont find attractive seems to want to do everything for me. Like they have a lot of qualities they like, but I can't get over how ugly they are. I've decided that apparently the right person for me is a woman I'm not attracted to. But I feel if I dealt with a woman who is ugly, I'd be settling for what I dint want. I realize that this means a lifetime of loneliness possibly, but I'm going to stand my ground on this one.
No you aren't wrong in fact I'm the exact same way. I would rather spend the rest of my life alone if I couldn't date a woman I was attracted to. I know that sounds mean but nobody wants to be with a person they aren't into physically.
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In the battle of waking up to someone hideous every morning or waking up to a pillow you strangled throughout the night, I'd pick the pillow. I don't think being single is a bad thing if you can't attract anyone who you feel absolutely wild about. I want a relationship where just the thought of seeing their smile brightens even the most craptastic day. If I have to settle for an ugly girl, being single isn't hell then.
I'm 33. And by ugly, I mean ugly to me. Which is a subjective preference. For example, I don't like blondes of any type or fat women. Both women seem to really like me, as they are the more supportive and caring. But it may be superficial, I can't get over their weight and/or blonde hair.
Blond and fat people are more supportive and caring??!! Please.
Just for a bit of perspective, the OP here (who hasn't posted in years) was a guy who, aside from "ugly women" issues, had problems with "gold-diggers". He said he somehow always wound up with gf's who didn't make much money and expected him to help them make the rent and other chronic financial shortfalls.
After a little questioning, he revealed that he works in finance, and enjoys discussing the stock market, and other aspects of the financial world, on dates. He also liked to dress sharply, even during leisure time. He couldn't understand why he only attracted women who were after his money.
Some people have a habit of painting bulls-eyes on themselves. I wouldn't waste any time on his "why do ugly women like me" concerns.
Just for a bit of perspective, the OP here (who hasn't posted in years) was a guy who, aside from "ugly women" issues, had problems with "gold-diggers". He said he somehow always wound up with gf's who didn't make much money and expected him to help them make the rent and other chronic financial shortfalls.
After a little questioning, he revealed that he works in finance, and enjoys discussing the stock market, and other aspects of the financial world, on dates. He also liked to dress sharply, even during leisure time. He couldn't understand why he only attracted women who were after his money.
Some people have a habit of painting bulls-eyes on themselves. I wouldn't waste any time on his "why do ugly women like me" concerns.
LOL, the OP is that same guy. The jackass was strong in that thread.
Are you unattractive? We know you're superficial already but don't know what you look like. If you're unattractive and superficial then life will be very hard, sorry, that's just how the game goes
Just for a bit of perspective, the OP here (who hasn't posted in years) was a guy who, aside from "ugly women" issues, had problems with "gold-diggers". He said he somehow always wound up with gf's who didn't make much money and expected him to help them make the rent and other chronic financial shortfalls.
After a little questioning, he revealed that he works in finance, and enjoys discussing the stock market, and other aspects of the financial world, on dates. He also liked to dress sharply, even during leisure time. He couldn't understand why he only attracted women who were after his money.
Some people have a habit of painting bulls-eyes on themselves. I wouldn't waste any time on his "why do ugly women like me" concerns.
I honestly think people that think like that are not really worth of love and eventually learn the hard way you reap what you sow.
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