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Not sure if it's part of 'midlife crisis' but over recent years I've started to long for the past and what could have been... I'm 41 now and seeing young women dating sometimes makes me wish I could be that guy,even tho in reality I've moved into the older and 'creepy' category in their eyes
I think it's partially because I really never was that guy...
Not sure if it's part of 'midlife crisis' but over recent years I've started to long for the past and what could have been... I'm 41 now and seeing young women dating sometimes makes me wish I could be that guy,even tho in reality I've moved into the older and 'creepy' category in their eyes
I think it's partially because I really never was that guy...
Maybe, I am the same way and often try to sneak a peek at young women walking with guys when I;m in public. I'm a few years younger than you and know that soon I won't be eligible to date anyone in their 20's unless I;m a sugar daddy.
I still try and focus on the 26-29 age range. Funny thing is 10 years ago I thought I had all the time in the world to get this dating thing right and then BAMM.....I;m older. So I think I;m going through the same thing as you. I still go out of my way to attract young girls like it's still 2001 no matter if I;m going to work or to the market or the barbershop
Many guys in their 40s and 50s date younger women, and really by that age you should be settled with your financial stability, living standards, and experience with dating/marriage/LTRs, Most of these guys have developed attractive features, attitudes, and lifestyles that younger women are open to exploring, not all of course. You should probably do some homework and begin to experiment with what changes could work for you. also developing an a good social circle, skills, and life style can neutralize the percieved creep factor, but you're just going to have to accept that these days some women are going to call any guy they find unattractive a creep. if your confident about your status, your lifestyle, your ability to date younger women, it wont be a factor. the flip side is that ppl will stare at you when you're out with a younger date, for various reasons, but as they say, that's quality problem. good luck.
P.S.: Many will say you are in fact going through a mid-life crisis, you should date your own age, your over the hill, blah, blah, blah .... don't live your life by other ppl's standards, it's your life so find your bliss.
Enjoy 41 while you can. In a very short time you'll look up and be 51 and then 61. I'm in my mid 50's and still lead an active vibrant life. I have more women after me than ever before.
I'm a few years younger than you and know that soon I won't be eligible to date anyone in their 20's unless I;m a sugar daddy.
I still try and focus on the 26-29 age range. Funny thing is 10 years ago I thought I had all the time in the world to get this dating thing right and then BAMM.....I;m older. So I think I;m going through the same thing as you. I still go out of my way to attract young girls like it's still 2001 no matter if I;m going to work or to the market or the barbershop
Agreed on the sugar daddy thing,like I think the Hugh Hefner thing is really creepy even tho most guys probably dig it;
Agreed also on how time flew and before I knew it I'm in another demographic I try and be realistic tho and not go out of my way to attract them,because I see what they tend to go for and I'm becoming far from it There are some guys older than me that I see are able to pull off an image or whatever,but I'm not shallow in any way as far as trying to be something I'm not in order to attract attention.
Many guys in their 40s and 50s date younger women, and really by that age you should be settled with your financial stability, living standards, and experience with dating/marriage/LTRs, Most of these guys have developed attractive features, attitudes, and lifestyles that younger women are open to exploring, not all of course. You should probably do some homework and begin to experiment with what changes could work for you. also developing an a good social circle, skills, and life style can neutralize the percieved creep factor, but you're just going to have to accept that these days some women are going to call any guy they find unattractive a creep. if your confident about your status, your lifestyle, your ability to date younger women, it wont be a factor. the flip side is that ppl will stare at you when you're out with a younger date, for various reasons, but as they say, that's quality problem. good luck.
P.S.: Many will say you are in fact going through a mid-life crisis, you should date your own age, your over the hill, blah, blah, blah .... don't live your life by other ppl's standards, it's your life so find your bliss.
I don't care what others think in that regard,but I do agree that I think something is off-kilter in that I don't think I'm where I want to and should be at this stage. Tho I never really was one of those smooth,got it all together types either
. . . but I'm not shallow in any way as far as trying to be something I'm not in order to attract attention.
make up, push up bras, hair extensions, high heels, spandex, accessories, etc.... and just about being as attractive and you can be, and what image you feel comfortable having. whether you like it or not, you are marketing yourself to others and people make judgements about who you are by what you present.
make up, push up bra, hair extensions, high heels, spandex, .... and just about being as attractive and you can be, and what image you feel comfortable having.
Very true. I've often wanted to get one of those image 'makeovers' I see on tv
Where does this start? One poster (the OP) said age 41, so I'm assuming 40. The only thing I regret is the different forks in the road I could have taken, with hindsight being 20-20.
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I try and be realistic tho and not go out of my way to attract them,because I see what they tend to go for and I'm becoming far from it
There are some guys older than me that I see are able to pull off an image or whatever,but I'm not shallow in any way as far as trying to be something I'm not in order to attract attention.
