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Old 01-31-2013, 07:12 AM
 
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There have been a few threads lately about snooping. Is snooping ever warranted?
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:24 AM
 
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The question is why one would feel the need to snoop. If you think your partner is cheating, then you're a fool not to investigate. Or if it's like this thread in the non-romantic relationships forum then it's probably not snooping but a necessary protective action.

//www.city-data.com/forum/non-r...h-big-red.html

Snooping implies idle nosiness or not minding your own business. If it's your business then it's not snooping.

On the other hand, if you're needlessly paranoid or distrustful, then you have a problem.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:29 AM
 
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It can be said that you are distrustful if you snoop though.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:32 AM
 
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It can be said that you are distrustful if you snoop though.
Or that you have control issues.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:37 AM
 
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If the other person has nothing to hide, then it wouldn't be called snooping. My SO and I have exchanged passwords to emails and facebook just as accountability. We don't check them, but it was just a gesture to show that we have nothing to hide frome each other.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:38 AM
 
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Snooping has no place in committed and trusting relationships.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:46 AM
 
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Well do what my sister did an put a fake snake in whatever you think your "special" other is going to look through. He had the audacity to get mad at her!!!
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:51 AM
 
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Or that you have control issues.
Or that you're insecure.
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:56 AM
 
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Well do what my sister did an put a fake snake in whatever you think your "special" other is going to look through. He had the audacity to get mad at her!!!
lmao love that idea.

I once read an article about a woman who was suing her husband (I guess soon-to-be ex husband?) because she discovered that he was secretly video recording her in the bathroom. She found the recordings by accident and was outraged. This was before the internet porn craze so she wasn't worried about that, she was just upset about her privacy being violated.

If that were me, I would have been surprised but I would not have said a word. Instead I would have gone on like I didn't know the camera was there and put on a "show" for him, one that I know he would like, and see how responds to me overtime. I probably would not have outed him unless he was being an insufferable jerk. (which could have been entirely likely in that scenario)
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Old 01-31-2013, 07:56 AM
 
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If you feel the need to snoop, it's probably time to have a serious sit down with your SO. I can go on my girlfriend's phone if I want but I'm not going to read her texts because I trust her.
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