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It's funny because I know I would be a good wife. If I met the right guy, I would reconsider my stance on marriage for myself. I think it's all about meeting the right person, wanting the marriage to that person to work, and putting in the effort (because you know it's worth it).
I also think people with positive views on relationships in general are likely to be more successful in marriage when it comes down to it. Some people are self fulfilling prophecies, good and bad. I would never be attracted to a guy who was so bitter towards marriage.
I guess that's why I find it so hard to understand where all this hatred is coming from. I believe in love. I believe in happy marriages. I believe in happy families. I believed these things were always a possibility for me. These weren't my main goals - but I always welcomed them. If I had only wanted to be married for the sake of being married - I would have married my first boyfriend. Or my ex-fiance. Or someone else. But even if it wasn't the path I wanted to take - I still wouldn't HATE it.
There are other things in life that people do that I don't see myself doing - but I don't hate those things. They just aren't for me.
First of all, it's the truth as he sees it.
And second of all, why the heck would people not have the balls to say something on the GD anonymous internet?!!!! Wth?
A quote from a favorite movie of mine '48 Hours'...I've used it here before, and it applies again in this situation, to wit:
"Just because YOU say somethin' with conviction, it don't mean s**t to me!"
As in, you can quote jackleg statistics, pull up all the old polls you want, and quote as many bitter-beer drinking hack-a** whiny bloggers you want, but in the end I don't have to accept the BS they spout as anything approaching gospel, or truth...are you (expletive) kiddin' me?
And if you step to me running your mouth and lip flapping about why YOU think marriage sucks, well, I'll do one of two things: I'll tell you that your experience ain't the same as mine, and I enjoy being married to my wife...or if I'm in a somewhat surly mood that day, I'll be blunt and tell you to go (expletive) off and whine to somebody else about that mess...and I've been feeling somewhat surly quite a lot lately
I guess that's why I find it so hard to understand where all this hatred is coming from. I believe in love. I believe in happy marriages. I believe in happy families. I believed these things were always a possibility for me. These weren't my main goals - but I always welcomed them. If I had only wanted to be married for the sake of being married - I would have married my first boyfriend. Or my ex-fiance. Or someone else. But even if it wasn't the path I wanted to take - I still wouldn't HATE it.
There are other things in life that people do that I don't see myself doing - but I don't hate those things. They just aren't for me.
Good question. I don't get it either. Who is it hurting?
You know, I do have to say one thing.
People shouldn't be into marriage or want marriage for marriage itself.
You should want to marry because you met someone you want to be with forever.
It shouldn't be a blind hatred of the institution itself. But it shouldn't be blindly wanting to be married for the sake of being married, either.
A quote from a favorite movie of mine '48 Hours'...I've used it here before, and it applies again in this situation, to wit:
"Just because YOU say somethin' with conviction, it don't mean s**t to me!"
As in, you can quote jackleg statistics, pull up all the old polls you want, and quote as many bitter-beer drinking hack-a** whiny bloggers you want, but in the end I don't have to accept the BS they spout as anything approaching gospel, or truth...are you (expletive) kiddin' me?
And if you step to me running your mouth and lip flapping about why YOU think marriage sucks, well, I'll do one of two things: I'll tell you that your experience ain't the same as mine, and I enjoy being married to my wife...or if I'm in a somewhat surly mood that day, I'll be blunt and tell you to go (expletive) off and whine to somebody else about that mess...and I've been feeling somewhat surly quite a lot lately
If you were blunt and direct, like every man should be, we wouldnt see the passive aggresivness of disagreeing with me through replying to others. Its quite alright, this world needs the feminine men too.
My mom got married 50 years ago. Gender dynamics as well as social expectations were completely different back then and people took marriage vows seriously. Apples and oranges, my friend (ex-friend booooo.)
But she exists.
Why are you blaming all women for changes in social expectations? You are indirectly blaming me and I am much more traditional. I have nothing to do with the changes.
Are you wanting a woman who will pick up your dirty socks for you when you mindlessly throw them on the floor?
You know, I do have to say one thing.
People shouldn't be into marriage or want marriage for marriage itself.
You should want to marry because you met someone you want to be with forever.
It shouldn't be a blind hatred of the institution itself. But it shouldn't be blindly wanting to be married for the sake of being married, either.
If you were blunt and direct, like every man should be, we wouldnt see the passive aggresivness of disagreeing with me through replying to others. Its quite alright, this world needs the feminine men too.
And here I was thinking you were a hateful women basher. Now I realize you're just a hateful, nasty person all around.
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