Can a long term relationship involved with two very mature adults be saved after cheating (wife, how to)
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Many such relationships are saved. Sometimes cheating is a cry for help, when nothing else has gotten through to make the other acknowledge a problem exists. They probably need professional help, though, but both sound motivated to work on this.
Let me add that I think they'll make the most progress if they focus not so much on the fact of the cheating, but on finding fixes for the stresses that cause the conflicts. Finding out how to support each other as a team may do this, whereas recriminations over cheating could more easily make things worse and lead to breaking up.
Many such relationships are saved. Sometimes cheating is a cry for help, when nothing else has gotten through to make the other acknowledge a problem exists. They probably need professional help, though, but both sound motivated to work on this.
Maybe a little detail can help.
My brother in law is a college professor and my sister is a nurse. My sister is beautiful, but my brother in law is just average looking. From the beginning, my sister pretty much "worshiped" my brother in law because she always admired guys with higher education.
My sister makes 2 times more money than my brother in law and my bil is a Phd who couldn't even make a chicken noodle soup. My sister is a kind of woman who will jump when her husband says "JUMP" She even told him on his 40th birthday that, "I know you have settled for a woman like me, but I am very thankful that I have you in my life."
My brother in law cheated with another professor from another college. They met at a business trip. My sister is devastated and we don't know how to help her.
My brother in law is a college professor and my sister is a nurse. My sister is beautiful, but my brother in law is just average looking. From the beginning, my sister pretty much "worshiped" my brother in law because she always admired guys with higher education.
My sister makes 2 times more money than my brother in law and my bil is a Phd who couldn't even make a chicken noodle soup. My sister is a kind of woman who will jump when her husband says "JUMP" She even told him on his 40th birthday that, "I know you have settled for a woman like me, but I am very thankful that I have you in my life."
My brother in law cheated with another professor from another college. They met at a business trip. My sister is devastated and we don't know how to help her.
Well now, you may be a bit biased here which is to be expected, I guess.
My brother in law cheated with another professor from another college. They met at a business trip. My sister is devastated and we don't know how to help her.
It can be salvaged since it sounds like it was incidental (like one long time email chatter before they met on the trip), along with the temptress living in another city (sounds like).
Have her google "talk about marriage" and visit the site with the same name. Lots of marital and divorce issues discussed there and it help me and others out tremendously. Lots of sad stories too that found their way to happiness. Good luck.
It can be salvaged since it sounds like it was incidental (like one long time email chatter before they met on the trip), along with the temptress living in another city (sounds like).
Have her google "talk about marriage" and visit the site with the same name. Lots of marital and divorce issues discussed there and it help me and others out tremendously. Lots of sad stories too that found their way to happiness. Good luck.
I'm projecting myself here, but I have zero tolerance for cheating. So the answer in my case would almost certainly be no. I'd end the relationship before I would screw someone else. Marriages should be based on trust. Once that trust is broken with me, then it's broken. My husband can expect the same honesty from me.
I think the husband in question's reasons/motives here for cheating are rather shallow. There really isn't anything that I've read that justifies his actions. He was a weak, thoughtless individual. "Small conflicts here and there" isn't a license to breach the trust of another human being, especially if that person adores you. That adoration though is troubling because things should never be so one-sided. The more I think on it, the more of a scumbag he is because he has a nice, attractive woman at home who adores him and he still cheats.
I'm projecting myself here, but I have zero tolerance for cheating. So the answer in my case would almost certainly be no. I'd end the relationship before I would screw someone else. Marriages should be based on trust. Once that trust is broken with me, then it's broken. My husband can expect the same honesty from me.
I think the husband in question's reasons/motives here for cheating are rather shallow. There really isn't anything that I've read that justifies his actions. He was a weak, thoughtless individual. "Small conflicts here and there" isn't a license to breach the trust of another human being, especially if that person adores you. That adoration though is troubling because things should never be so one-sided. The more I think on it, the more of a scumbag he is because he has a nice, attractive woman at home who adores him and he still cheats.
I'm projecting myself here, but I have zero tolerance for cheating. So the answer in my case would almost certainly be no. I'd end the relationship before I would screw someone else. Marriages should be based on trust. Once that trust is broken with me, then it's broken. My husband can expect the same honesty from me.
I think the husband in question's reasons/motives here for cheating are rather shallow. There really isn't anything that I've read that justifies his actions. He was a weak, thoughtless individual. "Small conflicts here and there" isn't a license to breach the trust of another human being, especially if that person adores you. That adoration though is troubling because things should never be so one-sided. The more I think on it, the more of a scumbag he is because he has a nice, attractive woman at home who adores him and he still cheats.
exactly. I cannot think of any good reasons why he has to cheat.
My sister adored him, my sister was a full time care taker for everybody in her family, my sister does the cooking, cleaning, and she absolutely loved him.
What gave him the right to hook up with another person just because she argued with him here and there? He kept on saying he felt empty, well, then broke up with my sister then you can screw whomever you want to.
Do you know that he worn a new shirt my sister bought him to his date?!
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