13 Reasons why Nice Girls are the Best (calling, social, relations)
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If a girl has to constantly state that she is a 'nice girl', or plead her case about being a nice girl, chances are that she probably has some type of personality quirk that is offputting to men.
While I DO consider myself a 'nice girl' in the sense that I'm easy to get along with and have an easygoing personality, I'm also aware of the fact that I can't be TOO nice or else that might give people the green light to try to take advantage of me.
I dont think the OP ever said anything about a nice girl being a "door mat" or not having a "backbone" and how typical of a woman to read into a statement and create something that isn't there. You are quite obviously not one of the nice ones.
I don't really spend much time dwelling on whether or not I'm a "nice girl." I try to be a good person - and that's enough for me. It seems to be enough for my husband as well.
Careful of the posers OP.... WYSIWYG with me. I rarely nag or criticize, and I have independence, spunk, and a backbone. I would not really call myself a "nice girl" though. I am not that worshipful or soft of personality. I do really appreciate my man though, and he seems to really like this bad girl.
I think the reasons she introduced those two terms is because they describe the OP quite well. Look at this thread and the other thread bemoaning housewives with unequal share of the chores. I mean...really? Toadying to women online will not earn him their respect.
It absolutely should earn me their respect. If it doesn't, that is their problem and not mine. A guy who can understand and sympathize with a woman's perspective on some issues while disagreeing with them on other issues... What is not to respect about that? What is wrong with thoughtfully considering both perspectives on an issue?
The people I have trouble respecting or taking seriously are the ones who come on here and always, automatically take the position in favor of their gender. The ones who do not even really consider the other side.
If a girl has to constantly state that she is a 'nice girl', or plead her case about being a nice girl, chances are that she probably has some type of personality quirk that is offputting to men.
Same goes for men. But hey, for every "nice" girl, there is an equally "nice" guy. We're all deserving of love...
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It absolutely should earn me their respect. If it doesn't, that is their problem and not mine. A guy who can understand and sympathize with a woman's perspective on some issues while disagreeing with them on other issues... What is not to respect about that? What is wrong with thoughtfully considering both perspectives on an issue?
The people I have trouble respecting or taking seriously are the ones who come on here and always, automatically take the position in favor of their gender. The ones who do not even really consider the other side.
Do you think most romantic relationships are one giant gender war or conversation about Men vs Women?
Women are always expected to be so "nice" and always gentle and bubbly and happy and always make you feel good around us. Everything can't be happy and perky and good and sweet all the time. We're humans, not Care Bears. We have conflicts, too. The minute we aren't so nice and sweet and bubbly to be around, for whatever reason that comes up in our imperfect lives with our imperfect selves that could bring us down even just temporarily, do you lose attraction to us?
The minute we aren't so nice and sweet and bubbly to be around, for whatever reason that comes up in our imperfect lives with our imperfect selves that could bring us down even just temporarily, do you lose attraction to us?
No, many men are still rather attracted to aloof (even not so nice) girls, though many will not admit it. Just as many women are attracted to the same in a man.
Nice girls...
go to bed and kiss you goodnight
Bad girls...
kiss you goodnight and go to bed.
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