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I know I made a thread about making friends easily which I do. But in terms of long term relationships..that's a different story. I can obviously attract men but it hardly turns into anything long term. I have barely been in a committed relationship for longer than a year. I know a lot of people who are my age that have been in 4 or 5 year relationships. I think the reason why I can't sustain a relationship long term is because I have a weak personality. I don't have anything that can keep a guy interested for a long period of time. Not sure if there is anything I can do about it. I don't think I'll ever be able to develop a strong and likeable personality. Maybe there is something I can do about it but I haven't yet discovered it.
If you think you have a weak personality and dont have anything to offer in order to keep a guy interested for a long period of time, than you will have these types of problems. I dont think its a personality or character issue but rather a self-esteem issue. Recognize your strong points and build on them. Have your own interesting world, independent of a guy you may be with. I have noticed that many younger girls today seem to have less and less hobbies, outside of reading garbage hollywood magazines and shopping. Ladies, those arent real hobbies, they are just activities made up to annoy men.
If you think you have a weak personality and dont have anything to offer in order to keep a guy interested for a long period of time, than you will have these types of problems. I dont think its a personality or character issue but rather a self-esteem issue. Recognize your strong points and build on them. Have your own interesting world, independent of a guy you may be with. I have noticed that many younger girls today seem to have less and less hobbies, outside of reading garbage hollywood magazines and shopping. Ladies, those arent real hobbies, they are just activities made up to annoy men
you can have hobbies and still have a weak personality. its about being able to say things in a way that keeps a persons interest. and i dont seem to have that quality. once they get pass the initial attraction, i am relatively boring and have weak interests.
I also have been told that I have a flat monotone voice (at times) which doesn't help matters at all. sometimes when I talk about things I can feel that people are not that interested...it may be the tone or delivery that is boring
you can have hobbies and still have a weak personality. its about being able to say things in a way that keeps a persons interest. and i dont seem to have that quality. once they get pass the initial attraction, i am relatively boring and have weak interests.
You know, its a little bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. If you think you have a weak personality and are boring, you will act congruent with this belief. If you changed your mind and looked at it as if you have a wonderful personality, but perhaps havent taken the time to further your interests in the past, now is a perfect chance to do it, your success posibility would sky rocket. Im sure there are many great things about you, but you need a certain level of self introspect to be able to highlight them and build on what you find.
I also have been told that I have a flat monotone voice (at times) which doesn't help matters at all. sometimes when I talk about things I can feel that people are not that interested...it may be the tone or delivery that is boring
Screw other people, including your boyfriends - it doesnt really matter what they think. Its all about what you think of yourself, because what you think of yourself is how you project yourself to other people.
You know, its a little bit of a self fulfilling prophecy. If you think you have a weak personality and are boring, you will act congruent with this belief. If you changed your mind and looked at it as if you have a wonderful personality, but perhaps havent taken the time to further your interests in the past, now is a perfect chance to do it, your success posibility would sky rocket. Im sure there are many great things about you, but you need a certain level of self introspect to be able to highlight them and build on what you find.
When I take that approach I notice people not really being interested in what i have to say. Even with friends I make, for some reason, I am always listening to them and what they have to say. Sometimes I know more about them than they do about me. People are constantly talking over me all the time.
True but they don't want long term relationships with those women
So do something about it, or settle for short term relationships-they aren't necessarily a bad thing. I appreciate a short term relationship.
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