Her family meeting my family...does it have to be after being engaged? (dating, girlfriend)
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I've been with my girlfriend for almost 18 months now and have started living together for at least a month. For a while my parents wanted to meet her family but my girlfriend's mother thinks it's the most ridiculous thing ever because we're not engaged or anything. My girlfriend doesn't really have a father because he was a deadbeat loser so I think her mom would feel awkward in front of my parents , who have been married for 35+ years. But still, is this something you only do after getting engaged or would it be the end of the world if they all met before we got engaged? we are both 24, if that means anything.
In all of my dating relationships, I met the parents and he met mine, starting at age 16.
And now that I've learned to read....I'd say by 18 months into the relationship, no reason for parents not to have met. You don't have to have get-togethers like you were already family, but there's no reason not to meet at all. After 18 months, is the relationship headed somewhere more serious/lasting?
My mom met SO's parents after we'd been dating about 7 months. My dad passed away in that timeframe before, so on occasions/holidays, not only was I included but my mom too.
Yeah, I'm surprised that after 18 months you haven't met each others parents yet. If you all don't live in the same area, that's one thing, but it's no big deal to informally introduce them if they're visiting or whatever.
Well I met her family within the first month just like she met my family in the first month. It's really along the lines of my parents meeting her mother/grandparents that I'm curious about.
Well I met her family within the first month just like she met my family in the first month. It's really along the lines of my parents meeting her mother/grandparents that I'm curious about.
Like I said above, I wouldn't worry about her parents meeting your parents. Concentrate on your relationship not the relationship your families have with each other-in the long run its not that important.
It varies. My parents met my now sister in law's parents early on because they started dating in high school and were friends for years before that. Because they met before either could drive it involved having a parent driving one of them to the other's house. I already know the family of the guy I am interested in and he knows my parents so a bit different too. My mom spoke to the mother of one of my exes on the phone when dating (we both still lived at home)but I don't remember them having any contact with any of my exes parents but probably would have if I moved in with them or got engaged. Come to think of it I moved in with someone and my parents never met his parents and neither did I.
Doesn't sound like her mother wants to meet your folks until after. I wouldn't press the issue. But, be aware this may be a sign of future difficulties.
I personally would have no problem meeting the parents of my son's girlfriend of 18 months...Her mother sounds a bit difficult.
Your living together. If it's not hugely inconvenient - like peopel living in different parts of the country, it seems odd that the parents haven't met each other. Your possible future MIL sounds a little odd.
Only if there's a serious, serious commitment. Then it's a nice thing to arrange. Because it isn't just two people joining together. It's two families.
When MrsCPG and I announced our engagement, my mother hosted my prospective in-laws for dinner. I had returned from New Zealand nine months earlier and given my mother a sheepskin run for Christmas.
My mother-in-law remarked, "Oh, that looks like the softest rug ever," and proceeded to lay down on the run and roll around on the rug before my horrified fiancee. My mother took it all in stride.
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