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So you realized the age gap when you vowed to spend the entirity of your life with him, correct? Or did you plan on him dying sooner?
Have you considered that, if you're lucky, you'll be that age someday too? Would you be ok with your husband dumping you because he's not "attracted" to you any more?
I'm usually not a rude person at all. Something just happened that made me stop to think.
I was out shopping with my husband and ran into a friend I hadn't seen in years. We chatted away for 10 minutes or so with my husband standing there. I didn't introduce him at all. Why was I being rude? Well, I'm embarrassed of my much older husband. I don't like to admit he's my husband to people. I'm 48 He's 72. I know, I didn't have a gun to my head to marry him. He has some good qualities. I'm just not attracted to him anymore. On the way home, it just really made me think, do I really want to be with someone I feel so negative about. I don't know sometimes. Any input? Insights?
That was more than being "rude".
That was mean, hurtful, childish, and sad.
Don't stop thinking about it - you've just scratched the surface.
OP, how long have you been married to him? You had to know that the age difference would play out looking worse as you got older. Why are you with him if you are so ashamed of him? It will be sad to put this poor man through a divorce, but worse to be married to someone that doens't love and respect him.
I'm usually not a rude person at all. Something just happened that made me stop to think.
I was out shopping with my husband and ran into a friend I hadn't seen in years. We chatted away for 10 minutes or so with my husband standing there. I didn't introduce him at all. Why was I being rude? Well, I'm embarrassed of my much older husband. I don't like to admit he's my husband to people. I'm 48 He's 72. I know, I didn't have a gun to my head to marry him. He has some good qualities. I'm just not attracted to him anymore. On the way home, it just really made me think, do I really want to be with someone I feel so negative about. I don't know sometimes. Any input? Insights?
You forgot one part :
"I look forward to him dying, so I can really cash in big"
I'd be ashamed of being married to an old man myself which is why I would never consider a geezer.
Please just shut up. That's an awful thing to say.
And don't try, as you usually do, to hijack this thread and make it about you, and your beliefs, and your views, and your feelings, and your...whatever.
Please just shut up. That's an awful thing to say.
And don't try, as you usually do, to hijack this thread and make it about you, and your beliefs, and your views, and your feelings, and your...whatever.
I'm just being honest and say this is exactly why I wouldn't date an old man. I would be ashamed to introduce him to others. I once dated an ugly man and I was so ashamed to admit he was my boyfriend.
I'm just being honest and say this is exactly why I wouldn't date an old man. I would be ashamed to introduce him to others. I once dated an ugly man and I was so ashamed to admit he was my boyfriend.
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So you realized the age gap when you vowed to spend the entirity of your life with him, correct? Or did you plan on him dying sooner?
