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I tend not to go by pictures when I'm online dating. More than once, I have gone in with low expectations about a guy's looks based on his pictures and then had him turn out to be totally hot! One dude I didn't even recognize when I got to the restaurant (after previously thinking he looked like an axe murderer in his profile), and another one was still kinda meh, but his personality sucked me in almost immediately and turned the "meh" into exceptionally magnetic attraction. By contrast, guys that I have thought were fairly attractive based on their photos have turned out to be decidedly unappealing (although my opinion may have been influenced by my initial impression of their personality).
For me, the photos are basically there to confirm that they're not morbidly obese and - given that I often have trouble recognizing faces - ensuring that I don't glance right over them when I enter the building. On OKCupid I tend not to even consider anyone below 85% compatibility these days, no matter how goodlooking they are in their photo. And if the profile resonates with me, they have to be pretty damn unappealing in their photos for me to dismiss them.
Of course, most of my photos tend to be disastrous. My colleagues in the art department of my company get frustrated when they try to take photos of me because the outcome usually doesn't look anything like me.
Anyone else come to think that the photos in online profiles aren't all that helpful?
From what I have experienced so far I agree. My first online date, the guy looked like the picture but had gained some weight. He was also a little shorter than he said. His face was the same, but in person he just wasn't as cute.
I met a guy yesterday and he far exceeded his pictures. His pics on POF were just okay, weird angles, etc. I could tell he had a great body. I asked him to send me some close ups and he asked me to go to his FB page. On FB he was cute, but in person he looked was hotter than hot!!
Not all guys post there best pictures....If those are there best I don't know what to say. I have seen tons of strange expressions, weird bathroom shots, crazy looking pics.
I did see 2 guys I actually know offline on POF and they really did represent themselves well. Their pictures were exactly how they normally look.
I'd imagine that people would tend to put their best photos on line.
Though, that doesn't seem to jive with your experience
Even my best pictures usually don't look all that appealing. I remember one of the first online date I went on, the guy opened the door to his house (totally unsafe that I met him there, but whatever - I was in my early 20s and very naive) and literally gasped. He spent a good chunk of the night telling me that I was much prettier than my pictures indicated - it was like he thought he'd hit some kind of jackpot. I guess I could have found a way to take offense about that, but he was right about my photos. Of course, I think there is a certain strategic value in having less attractive pictures - it's more likely the guy is interested in me because of our compatibility.
I tend not to go by pictures when I'm online dating. More than once, I have gone in with low expectations about a guy's looks based on his pictures and then had him turn out to be totally hot! One dude I didn't even recognize when I got to the restaurant (after previously thinking he looked like an axe murderer in his profile), and another one was still kinda meh, but his personality sucked me in almost immediately and turned the "meh" into exceptionally magnetic attraction. By contrast, guys that I have thought were fairly attractive based on their photos have turned out to be decidedly unappealing (although my opinion may have been influenced by my initial impression of their personality).
For me, the photos are basically there to confirm that they're not morbidly obese and - given that I often have trouble recognizing faces - ensuring that I don't glance right over them when I enter the building. On OKCupid I tend not to even consider anyone below 85% compatibility these days, no matter how goodlooking they are in their photo. And if the profile resonates with me, they have to be pretty damn unappealing in their photos for me to dismiss them.
Of course, most of my photos tend to be disastrous. My colleagues in the art department of my company get frustrated when they try to take photos of me because the outcome usually doesn't look anything like me.
Anyone else come to think that the photos in online profiles aren't all that helpful?
Mine always are. I always take them when I look like hell. In my, or parts of my uniform, not always clean shaven, sometimes after work etc.. It only gets better....I clean up well.
I shouldn`t laugh but can`t help it!
My EX was talking with this girl from China for 6 months, so decided to go see her for a week, just to find that she was 40 lbs. heavier than she looked in the pic she sent him, besides being bossy, and a b*tch!!
Duck face
Bar scenes
Red Dixie cups
Gangsta signs
Chest and neck tattoos
Pictures with a toilet and dirty laundry in the background.
Avoid
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In my, or parts of my uniform, not always clean shaven, sometimes after work etc.. It only gets better....I clean up well. 
