Your thoughts on the text exchange from a girl I met online (dates, girls)
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One thing everyone has to realize about online dating is the ability to write someone off very quickly. Mainly due to the ease of messaging someone else. If someone didn't have so many options at their fingertips, they would spend more time getting to know someone and not be so quick to cut off contact. Someone like who you dealt with is looking for the ultimate specimen, but likely can't bring 1/4 of what that guy brings to the table. It's better to find out how she is now than find out how she is later. Cut your losses and move on, since the only way you can apologize is by basically begging, for which she will have little to no respect for you. You are actually in a lose lose situation.
Eh, cut your losses and be glad you see this behavior now. Your comments would have not bothered me at all because I would have taken it as a joke/sarcasm.
This is the type of girl you will need to walk on eggshells with. Do you really want to go there?
Exactly. No humor at all. You are better off spending your dating money elsewhere.
Everyone texts these days. Well most. Nothing odd about it. I like texting because it allows me to carry on a conversation at my own pace. I can stop and go take care of the dog or whatever, different than a phone call entirely. In fact, I really only use phone calls these days for quick things like "Hey let's meet tomorrow at 2, ok? Ok, bye!" Much preferred over phone calls for me.
Everyone texts these days. Well most. Nothing odd about it. I like texting because it allows me to carry on a conversation at my own pace. I can stop and go take care of the dog or whatever, different than a phone call entirely. In fact, I really only use phone calls these days for quick things like "Hey let's meet tomorrow at 2, ok? Ok, bye!" Much preferred over phone calls for me.
And that's why the OP struggled to make the girl laugh because it was over text.
I think it is entirely okay for her to assume you might be dating numerous women and maybe thinking you are a player. When accused, everybody denies. No one should talk about dating others, or joke about dating others because you don't know how it might be perceived. Some people like to brag about their popularity.
She might feel she has no chance with you because you are dating others. I joked about guys when on a date with someone and he never called me back. I pretty much figured out that was the reason he never called again. It was a stupid mistake.
I agree with this. No one likes to be made to feel less special in that moment, by being reminded you have other dates/options.
However, I think the comment about having to cut back on work hours to date was hilarious!! Too bad she missed the humour, but such is what happens in written form without facial expression or tone.
Texting was meant for a brief exchange of information, not as the primary means to get to know someone. I think it's a shame technology has advanced so much that people think speaking to someone is a waste of time, and would rather typed words be their main connection.
Exhibit A as to why texting is the single most idiotic and terrible way to get to know someone.
Pick up the damn phone, geez.
I'd even go as far as to say that the more contact you have between the "internet meeting" and the "real meeting" the less likely the chances are of success.
Hi there! I went on a date with this girl off of Eharmony. We had a very nice, lunch date, and texted afterwards. Last night, we had this discussion. I don't think I was out of line, and I do like to joke around.
Her: {we were talking about her getting more hrs at work} Uh no choice what so ever if i want to continue to be seen as a people leader
Me:Plus u need time to go on a date with me!
Her: Aaand now u know why i'm trying online dating i never have time to date anyone or even meet people!
Me: Yes.
Her: Aand its getting worse lol
Me: Not enough time to book all your dates, eh? I had to cut my hours so I could
Her: Lol oh yeah?
Me:Yes, but with the hours getting cut I can't afford all these dates!
Me: Jk jk
Her: Lol uh huh
Me: Yes?
Me: I sense sarcasm, my dear..
Her:I dont say **** if i dont mean it, not that its any of my business how many girls your dating but to be so arrogant to say that says alot to me
Me:No, it was a joke
Me: Sorry it didn't come across as such via text
Her: Even in sarcasm a statement that arrogant says alot about a person just good to see now
Me:I see
Me:Sorry
I guess I like to use sarcasm, but I feel that she didn't take it that way at all, and felt very stuck up. I guess, I feel, seeing as we've only seen each other once, for a lunch date and texted sporadically afterwards, I was entitled to use the website for other potential matches. Besides, if I am paying hundreds of dollars, I should get my money's worth. I did write her an apology this morning staying how my joke was out of line and I would still be interested in getting to know her better, but I have not heard back. I am just going to move on, but was wondering; was I that out of line?
Thank you.
Why people try to use texting to replace real conversation is beyond me. You can't get across the true meaning...so misunderstandings are always, ALWAYS going to happen when you try to communicate like this, via text. Next time, call the girl up.
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Too bad she missed the humour, but such is what happens in written form without facial expression or tone.
Why people try to use texting to replace real conversation is beyond me. You can't get across the true meaning...so misunderstandings are always, ALWAYS going to happen when you try to communicate like this, via text. Next time, call the girl up. 
