Married Twice, Divorced Twice, Keep Dating and Marrying the Same Guy?! (girlfriends, women)
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O.K, I am doing something wrong. I keep on dating and marrying the same type of man..they are not good people. Why is it, I keep on attracting, dating, or marrying the same type of man?I find they share a common thread: compulsive lying, the desire to have me drop everything and have my life center around what they want etc. etc. I am 41 and really, really, getting tired of it and the men that cross my path. Believe me, I KNOW I must be doing something wrong.
I'm fabulously rich with my own plane, sing back up with the Stones and teach at Harvard during my spare time. Would you care to run away to Europe this weekend for a little fun ?
And you can Trust me, I'll always tell you some version of the truth.
Hey, if you fall for guys crap easily thought I'd give it a try.
What you are doing wrong is hanging out in the same places that you found the other guys like this. It is YOUR CHOICE to change YOUR LIFE and how YOU LIVE IT. If something hasn't worked several times before it is usually best to try something new. If you don't like being treated like crap then QUIT ALLOWING them to treat you like crap. DO NOT SETTLE, wait for a good man (yes they do exist).
I hate dropping the "therapy" line all the time, but maybe it could do you some good. With all due respect, it sounds like you have some self respect issues. People who tend to fall for the same types have some underlying issues. Maybe you need to learn to stand up for yourself, maybe men see you as "easy" in terms of someone to take care of them? I don't mean to sound rude, by the way. We've all been there.
Do you have a lot of single girlfriends you can hang out with? Any groups you belong to? Any hobbies that you can say "I'm really good at this" or anything that makes you happy? I think until you can figure out what attracts you to these men (or them to you), you need to step back and examine the big picture. I suggest making YOU happy first and foremost, and really convincing yourself that you're worthy.
If you find you've dated men (married) like this your entire life, you really need to get to the root of the issue or you'll keep attracting men who aren't worth your time. I'm obviously no expert, but I finally "found" myself when I stopped dating mentally abusive men and gained some confidence. I started attracting fewer men, but ones of higher caliber in terms of stability and appreciating me.
Have you read Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood?
I actually own this book. Awesome suggestion.
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It sucks, but is is extremely necessary.
