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Old 04-15-2013, 06:24 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Do you let them know you are? When one of them asks you to do something when you have plans with sometime ether, do you make up a lie or tell the person that the truth?
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Old 04-15-2013, 06:31 AM
 
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You just say I have other plans.

Honesty is the best policy.

When you see them out and about when on your date they will realize that your 'other plans' was a different date. If they get made..tuff tooty!
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Old 04-15-2013, 06:57 AM
 
Location: NY
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When dating someone new, or early on, there should be no expectation on exclusivity. I see no reason to offer up that you are dating multiple people in the early stages.

I also see no reason to tell them you have another date if you decline an offer for a date.
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Old 04-15-2013, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I say I have other plans. It's not yet their business what those plans are - once we've agreed on exclusivity, then I will tell them what I'm doing, but of course that will no longer be another date. Depending on the person and situation, I may tell them anyway, and if we've agreed to be non-exclusive and date others, there is no reason not to tell them.
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Old 04-15-2013, 08:03 AM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I see no reason to say anything.. but if you want to be in a relationship with one of them you should leave the others.
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Old 04-15-2013, 08:14 AM
 
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I see no reason to say anything.. but if you want to be in a relationship with one of them you should leave the others.
Yes and have the talk before if you want a relationship.
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:43 AM
 
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Just tell them you have other plans. It is a hard situation to be in but until you have commitment, you can do what you like, technically.
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Albuquerque, NM
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Do you let them know you are? When one of them asks you to do something when you have plans with sometime ether, do you make up a lie or tell the person that the truth?
Honesty always.
Why lie?
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Honesty always.
Why lie?
^^^^This.

I would want to know if my date is also dating others. I've never casually dated more than one person at a time, but I still think it's better to be up-front about it so everyone knows where they stand.
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:54 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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So I say I got other plans. .... then in the evening I get a text saying, "I did this ... and that ... today, what did you do?".

What do you answer?

You say what you did but leave the fact out that you did it with another guy/girl?
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