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The cattiness in here amazing. The OP was just giving an initial reaction with the intentions of sharing some news. no need to jump down their throat like half-starved hyenas. Just point out tactfully that her post wasn't quite so....tactful is enough.
I understand that but at the time this person should really not judge everyone that has an STD as being the same. Their are millions of people that have an STD from rape and other bad situations. I just think that this person is a very close minded individual.
I understand that but at the time this person should really not judge everyone that has an STD as being the same. Their are millions of people that have an STD from rape and other bad situations. I just think that this person is a very close minded individual.
And it never hurts to educate individuals but not in the manner that is being done here. If you read through the posts, you'll see a reoccurring pattern where the comments made are meant to scorn and put down--very similar to the setting of a group of grade school girls enclosing in on the one girl that made a social faux pas. I would not say that the comments being made are neither educational nor with good intentions at all. "I have to say meow too"? It seems more to me some people are simply trying to be escalate the drama level of the situation. So perhaps the OP didn't know...perhaps that's her actual opinion...perhaps it was an off-the-cuff comment-- but this hive mindset I'm seeing here amongst posters where each one of them is taking a bite of the OP (despite having read that what they keep rehashing has already been said) is disturbing.
And it never hurts to educate individuals but not in the manner that is being done here. If you read through the posts, you'll see a reoccurring pattern where the comments made are meant to scorn and put down--very similar to the setting of a group of grade school girls enclosing in on the one girl that made a social faux pas. I would not say that the comments being made are neither educational nor with good intentions at all. "I have to say meow too"? It seems more to me some people are simply trying to be escalate the drama level of the situation. So perhaps the OP didn't know...perhaps that's her actual opinion...perhaps it was an off-the-cuff comment-- but this hive mindset I'm seeing here amongst posters where each one of them is taking a bite of the OP (despite having read that what they keep rehashing has already been said) is disturbing.
I've just reread this thread, and I really don't see where people are "taking a bite" of the OP. We're disagreeing with her. Is disagreeing with someone who is woefully ignorant of the facts something to be considered as horrible as you make it out to be? Absolutely not. The only thing disturbing in this thread are the OP's posts - which, by the way, are not off-the-cuff. She made more than one post, both of which were the only malicious posts in this thread.
The only thing more disturbing than the OP's posts is your defense of them. Would you rather we all just turn our backs and allow her to spread the false, hurtful information?
This is not a matter of opinion. It's a matter of ignorance and misinformation. It's the responsibility of educated people to keep such horrible misconceptions from being spread.
It's called VDDating.com...It's for people who have V.D.
Now why would you want to date someone who has a sexually transmitted disease (they obviously sleep around with everyone they go on a first date with)?? That's just gross, in my opinion. You know these people are too promiscuous, "players", and only want a 1 night stand. That's just my 2 cents in.
I know I'm going to be condemned by a lot of people on here, but why would they have such a dating site like that. That's just gross to me.
aids will not show up on blood test for 90 days. aids will not show physical symptoms for 7 years. 25% of aids carriers have not told their partner.
50% of the aids in usa comes from 11% of the population.
i am trying to make a point, please be careful.
ps you can still get herpes with a condom.
And it never hurts to educate individuals but not in the manner that is being done here. If you read through the posts, you'll see a reoccurring pattern where the comments made are meant to scorn and put down--very similar to the setting of a group of grade school girls enclosing in on the one girl that made a social faux pas. I would not say that the comments being made are neither educational nor with good intentions at all. "I have to say meow too"? It seems more to me some people are simply trying to be escalate the drama level of the situation. So perhaps the OP didn't know...perhaps that's her actual opinion...perhaps it was an off-the-cuff comment-- but this hive mindset I'm seeing here amongst posters where each one of them is taking a bite of the OP (despite having read that what they keep rehashing has already been said) is disturbing.
I still stand by what said. I respect your opinion and thats why I'm not getting at like a school girl. BUT I have no respect for the person who posted this forum. I don't think its that i'm acting like a school girl, its more of a disappointment to hear such hurtful and judgmental things from someone who has obviously never has had the experience of dealing with an STD. I do agree that everyone has a right to their own opinion but at the same time to have an opinion on a subject I think you should know the facts. I believe that she is morally wrong for what she said even though that is what she believes. It is people like her that always bring down other people and I'm not with that
I've just reread this thread, and I really don't see where people are "taking a bite" of the OP. We're disagreeing with her. Is disagreeing with someone who is woefully ignorant of the facts something to be considered as horrible as you make it out to be? Absolutely not. The only thing disturbing in this thread are the OP's posts - which, by the way, are not off-the-cuff. She made more than one post, both of which were the only malicious posts in this thread.
The only thing more disturbing than the OP's posts is your defense of them. Would you rather we all just turn our backs and allow her to spread the false, hurtful information?
This is not a matter of opinion. It's a matter of ignorance and misinformation. It's the responsibility of educated people to keep such horrible misconceptions from being spread.
Please re-read the post that you quoted and note that I said education is never a bad thing---but overdramatizing the situation--as I feel you are currently doing to me--is what is destructive about this post. Did I say we should turn our backs? No. So do not put words into my mouth.
Last edited by johnycakes; 11-02-2007 at 05:37 AM..
Reason: Removed elements of personal attack
Please re-read the post that you quoted and note that I said education is never a bad thing---but overdramatizing the situation--as I feel you are currently doing to me--is what is destructive about this post. Did I say we should turn our backs? No. So do not put words into my mouth.
SmerkyGrl, without wishing to personally inflict any form of embarassment, bare with me while I try to phrase this delicately.
STDs are a very touchy subject, because the effects and changes of lifestyle are so drastic. All in all, you can't fault someone for "overdramatizing" any parts about this thread in regards to STDs. The drama is there, it is a case by case basis with people that aren't infected, as to whether they choose to acknowledge it or not for what it is. If you are one of these people that look the other way, or "downplay" the "drama" of it all, then perhaps this thread is not for you.
Everyone needs to pick their own battles. Arguing the seriousness of STDs or not, would not be a wise one to pick at this time. This thread is based off the introduction of a new website particularly targetting individuals with STDs. While everyone is welcome to give their opinion, if you're not overly concerned with it in general, the best thing to do is to stay out of it, rather than instigate conflict with those that "do" chose to take it more dramaticly.
I remember a lecture my micro-bio prof. hosted several years ago. There was a panel of maybe 5-6 scientists, healthcare professionals, & a retired CDC researcher. They ALL agreed that approximately 20% of the global population has herpes &/or HPV. They also ALL agreed that 20% is a rediculuosly low # due to how many people out there don't know they have it PLUS all the people who suspect they have it & aren't about to do a darn to thing to make certain one way or the other. The panel told an auditorium of over 500 students to look around; that probably half of those present were infected.
A dating site for responsible people with STDs? Probably a safer bet than taking your chances with the unknown @ match.com or anywhere else!
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