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As long as the two of you have an automatic in the garage that she can drive and will accommodate any future children then I see no reason for you not to buy the 6 speed. She sounds a little controlling and the fact that you're the one bringing home all the money leads me to believe that she might be one of those women that has a huge sense of entitlement.
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Originally Posted by ducviloxi
intends to take a much lower paying job maybe for $40k
That's a decent income for other parts of the country but for SoCal, it really isn't. If she's going to micromanage your spending habits then she needs to get some schooling and get a higher paying job.
I don't understand why you can't marry her and have the car? After all it is your money. If she wants something else, tell her to get a job and contribute to it instead of acting like a moocher.
I don't understand why you can't marry her and have the car? After all it is your money. If she wants something else, tell her to get a job and contribute to it instead of acting like a moocher.
Is it because you are 39 so you think you should get married at some point? I can tell you now from my own experience the car choice is irrelevant. The cost of the wedding is irrelevant. The only relevant point is that this woman is not the love of your life so at some point later on, you two will separate. How you get to that point and how long it takes is up to you.
I'm a female who loves driving a manual so my opinion is probably not worth much. But I see her point that she wants to have a commitment at two years (I personally think that is too soon) because she wants to have kids. That said, I think she is out of line already trying to get you to make decisions, fun ones like car buying, based on what she sees for your collective future. Further, you mention that she is 33 and does not have an income, or perhaps you meant that she works but is not highly compensated, but that worries me too. If I were a man I would not consider marring a woman who had not been out in the world making her own living and having to team with others in the workplace, experience stress, etc. I'm sorry if I read your post incorrectly however, maybe she is working.
Edit, I see that she does have some income, sorry.
I am an older female, so I don't have young kids to think about.
I just bought a 5-speed manual a couple weeks ago. (It's not a sportscar.) I am alone, so there was no one else to consider. If anyone wanted to learn, I'd simply teach them. It's fun to drive and at this point, I need a little fun anyway I can get it. I've even squawked the tires a couple times. LOL
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