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I'm pretty much the breadwinner of our family. I partly financially support my family. My dad passed away a year and a half ago and mom is living with me now. Sis and nephew are also living in my house. I like helping people. I'm naturally have the heart for people who are in need. I let some few relatives stayed in my house for a year without asking for any kind of payment. Food and shelter provided.
The situation I have now is, there's a girl living in another country who needs financial help finishing her college education. She will start college in a few months. I know her personally and I know she's a smart girl but her family can't afford to put her to college ( theres no loans or grants in this country). I'm thinking of supporting her college education. Its a four year degree and I will be giving her tuition money for that period till she graduates. Our agreement is once she graduates and start working, she will send another kid to college and that kid will do the same thing to another kid.
My question is, guys, would you avoid dating a girl who has this financial responsibility of helping other people even tho its something that makes her happy? Im not sure if its something I should disclose to the person I date. I don't want to scare them off but I don't want to hide anything as well. Thank you.
Last edited by Missganda; 05-11-2013 at 12:08 PM..
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My question is, guys, would you avoid dating a girl who has this financial responsibility of helping other people even tho its something that makes her happy? Thank you.
You seem extraordinarily kind and generous. I would say this is NOT a deterrent for a like-minded man as long as the following conditions are met:
1) You are treated well by the people you are helping and not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
2) You are not jeopardizing your own financial security.
3) You are not overextending yourself.
4) You are not enabling people who are otherwise capable of taking care of themselves and are capable of "cutting off" people who are now ready to take full financial responsibility for themselves.
5) You know how to prioritize your partner in terms of time and attention.
You seem extraordinarily kind and generous. I would say this is NOT a deterrent for a like-minded man as long as the following conditions are met:
1) You are treated well by the people you are helping and not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
2) You are not jeopardizing your own financial security.
3) You are not overextending yourself.
4) You are not enabling people who are otherwise capable of taking care of themselves and are capable of "cutting off" people who are now ready to take full financial responsibility for themselves.
5) You know how to prioritize your partner in terms of time and attention.
You seem like a very generous, giving, wonderful girl, OP.
But I do agree with the above. JrzDefector is an incredibly wise poster.
The way I see it...Do what you want w/ your own money, and more power to you.
If you are dating it is your business what you are doing w/ your money. If you were married and both jointly contributing, that would require full disclosure on both your parts.
You seem extraordinarily kind and generous. I would say this is NOT a deterrent for a like-minded man as long as the following conditions are met:
1) You are treated well by the people you are helping and not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of.
2) You are not jeopardizing your own financial security.
3) You are not overextending yourself.
4) You are not enabling people who are otherwise capable of taking care of themselves and are capable of "cutting off" people who are now ready to take full financial responsibility for themselves.
5) You know how to prioritize your partner in terms of time and attention.
I'm just blessed to be able to have some extra money to give away to other people who are in need. I think the best way to do it is to help a kid to fulfill her dreams of getting a college education. What concerns me tho is in four years, I would like to see myself married and maybe have a kid of my own. I'm not sure if its something that would create some problems in the future.
The way I see it...Do what you want w/ your own money, and more power to you.
If you are dating it is your business what you are doing w/ your money. If you were married and both jointly contributing, that would require full disclosure on both your parts.
I don't disclose to the any guys I date that I have this financial responsibilities. I'm afraid that they may get scared or something. They know I'm single with no kids and being single with no kids means that I only support myself but that's not my case.
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