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I think in this life, it's important to find your true happiness alone AND with a partner. When I was single, I finally got myself to a healthy mental state to where I was truly happy with what happened or didn't happen in terms of love. I found hobbies and took care of myself. I paid attention to my friends and reconnected with my family. It was the most refreshing thing ever, finding myself. As cliche as that sounds.
Then my boyfriend came along. It sounds weird, but he makes me feel like I'm single plus one. He doesn't suck the life out of me or hold me back. He doesn't breathe down my neck or give me rules. We somehow mesh together. It's like having a best friend that I find attractive and that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not sure if all relationships are like this, but that's the way to do it. He lets me be me. And it's worked for us for a few years now, so I think the "honeymoon" phase is over. I also can't imagine me without him, but it's not a bad feeling. I never fear him leaving me.
With that being said, people fall in love, people break up, people die. My father lost his second wife (his true love, my god was he head over heels) to cancer pretty suddenly last year. He is only in his 50's with plenty of time left (my stepmom was younger) and I was genuinely worried how he would cope given the suddenness of it all. My father, being the strong man that he is, picked himself up and finally took some time off from work to reorganize the house, clean up, and get himself together. He is now working his "dream job". While he misses her every day, he is genuinely happy and is continuing to develop himself. I am so in awe of him, I hope I could have the same strength.
A bit of a rant, but I think both are optimal. It's just up to you how you choose to see it. I personally love having my boyfriend because he enhances my life. If I was single, I would still be elated to wake up every day, but life in general would just be a little bit more difficult. I think having a life partner is extremely valuable and a wonderful benefit, whether it's romantic or not. I do enjoy this love though.
GOD bless you Thx for the rant...that was beautiful
Total freedom to do whatever you want without taking into consideration anyone else's needs at all.
If you wanted, you could fly across the world tomorrow, disappear for months on end, have sex with a lot of different people and no one can do anything about it.
Total freedom to do whatever you want without taking into consideration anyone else's needs at all.
If you wanted, you could fly across the world tomorrow, disappear for months on end, have sex with a lot of different people and no one can do anything about it.
And this is the exact reason so many cannot find and keep a long term relationship with anything beyond their dirty socks.......no consideration for anyone or anything........it is always me,me,me....
(not me me but them me....I'm sure you know what I mean)
That whole having sex with a lot of different people when ever I want it does not work out so well for most of us so we seek relationships. Also it takes at least 2-3 weeks to teach each other what you like in bed at a minimum. So to always be with someone new would be frustrating.
And this is the exact reason so many cannot find and keep a long term relationship with anything beyond their dirty socks.......no consideration for anyone or anything........it is always me,me,me....
(not me me but them me....I'm sure you know what I mean)
what if all your life everything has been about other people and you never put yourself first?? what if your relationships have been all HIM HIM HIM HIM and then, many years later, you find yourself alone after giving EVERYTHING to someone, helping him through huge depression and trauma, he sucked the life out of you, and when he turns 30 he decides to go to live to europe?? You find yourself alone, after spending all your youth taking care of people.
Excuse me, mister, but its GONNA BE "ME ME ME" from now on.
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