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For so many years I went to the big chains just because I didn't have to stress if my kids got a little loud...but now screaming kids set my teeth on edge...I guess in the next 10yrs or so I'll be back with the grandkids...but until then...I'm gonna enjoy the peace! I see some young people on dates at these places but they are usually arriving at 8 or 9 when the screaming memes are home in bed!
LOL... IDK... I see people with really small children out past 9 or even 10 sometimes, makes you wonder what the deal is with that.... some shabby parenting if you ask me...
LOL... IDK... I see people with really small children out past 9 or even 10 sometimes, makes you wonder what the deal is with that.... some shabby parenting if you ask me...
I've gone to Walmart and Target during the week after 9 and see little kids running around.
What age group of men is she interested in? She stated she is well over 30, so a guess would be 36-38 range. Is she targeting men with all of those requirements in the 33 to 39 age range? Those are going to be high value men with lots of options. They are not targeting her, they are busy with the 24 to 30 year old female with youth and fertility.
OP stated she is divorced; no kids? What exactly does freelance mean? Freelance what? photography, writing, computer code? Did you buy the home on your own with your freelance income or did you win it in divorce? If freelance gives you enough income to buy a home why do you have a crappy car? Sounds like ex-hubby had a good job with benefits that allowed you to have a pretend job/hobby.
I imagine when you were in your twenties you had lots of attention from attractive, fit men willing to spend money to entertain you. Where are those men now, shouldn't they be fawning over you now that your single again? Me thinks not.
Good luck finding that Unicorn.
You should probably look on Craigslist in the free cat section and get a head start.
LOL... IDK... I see people with really small children out past 9 or even 10 sometimes, makes you wonder what the deal is with that.... some shabby parenting if you ask me...
Agree...although when we just had the one (before he was school age) we lived in NYC...and we used to take him to the local diner at all hours of the night...kinda bad but he loved it!!
Some real mean spirited responses here .... I see we're in a cycle of more men being crappy.... We did have a cycle a while back with more women being that way....
Some real mean spirited responses here .... I see we're in a cycle of more men being crappy.... We did have a cycle a while back with more women being that way....
freelance is somebody who is self-employed and is not committed to a particular employer long term. These workers are sometimes represented by a company or an agency that resells their labor and that of others to its clients with or without project management and labor contributed by its regular employees. Others are completely independent.
We've all scored chicks during college and being broke as a joke .... the stuff I was talking about was more when you're all growns up and out in the dating world.
Of course some 19 yr girl shouldn't expect a 19 yr old boy to be ballin outta control.......
I wasent so lucky. I think I sabotoged myself for a few years though, all the guys around me wanted "hotties" so I figured thats what I had to do too otherwise I would be laughed at. After not getting laid for years I finally wised up and started dating in my leauge and things got alot better.
I think part of it is peer pressure, if a woman is a 5 and hangs out with 10's all the time thoes women are going to balk at men that the 5 women should be going after but because her friends snicker and make comments she cant dare approach that guy or she will be the laughing stock of her friends. Her friends dont know she is a 5 because they are all women.
I fell for it big time in college and being a 5 myself there were alot of clues over the years with all the social interactions that went on, I just didnt catch on till right before I graduated. It was a hard lesson indeed.
Earlier you mentioned that you have been married, and you have had many relationships, and this year is the first time you have been alone in your life.
To be honest, I absolutely feel no sympathy for you. Many people go months and years in different time of their life alone.
I wonder, if the opposite sex didnt consider you so attractive, would/ could you be so picky? Why do you always want "more"?
Why are you incapable of accepting a man for who he is?
What is it about you that makes you so unsatisfied with life and everyone that you come across ?
I wonder if you are attempting to come across as genuine, and considerate, when in reality you are quite a narcissist. This always wanting 'more', and your experience in dating with very few guys holding your interest point me to that conclusion.
Everyone is special in their own way, and everyone does deserve the best, but most people are not that much more special than the next person. I think the OP thinks she IS more special than most people, and therefore, how she values herself is reflected in her unrealistic expectations in a man/partner.
This isnt a personal attack on the OP, but I think its safe to say, that this individual isn't single due to lack of potential men to date or dating opportunities, her failure in finding a life partner is more internal to her, and her unrealistic expectations.
But the truth is, if you won't be happy with anything other than your expectations, than wait for someone to come along and meet them, or re-wire your expectations to accept something lower than your ideals are now.
Seldom do people rewire, instead, they 'settle', marry, have a kid or two, and then divorce and get out there once more now that they have accomplished the 'having child' life goal.
Good luck OP, I honestly hope you find happiness in a guy that meets your expectations, or happiness in another aspect in your life that can fill the void of being alone.
Yes, thank you. You have a point. I am hoping though I've just been looking in the wrong places (online) or going about it the wrong way (letting the man pursue me.) I was thinking tonight about some people around me who actually do get away with things (in other areas of their life) that I'd never even try. And it gets irritating to me that they get away with so much when I always seem to "follow the rules" maybe I do think I can get away with stuff in my love life and it's caught up with me? I wish I knew the answer. I honestly don't think I'm so bad, nor do I think I'm the best looking woman around, certainly not the youngest. And I do know men are superficial too and that factors in. But usually someone who is a nightmare doesn't know they're a nightmare. I do know I have shortcomings though. What will be will be just having a hard time staying positive about it lately.
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