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If all you're looking for is sex then I whole heartedly recommend seeing an escort.
If you're the type of guy that counts his pennies and wonders if he's getting enough sex in exchange for that then go see an escort.
If all you're worried about is tit for tat, see an escort.
If you're interested in forming a long lasting relationship with another human being, then go for that too. But treating women like they're escorts (i.e. keeping track of money in and sex out) then you're gonna have a bad time.
You seem like the kind of guy that only views women as walking vaginas and not actual people. In your case, I highly recommend you stick with escorts.
I've spent far more money dating than the guy I'm seeing and I don't feel put out...I enjoy the time we spend together and money isn't an issue.
I've heard people call dating a marketplace, and people in the "dating game" having market value. While I dislike the idea of considering people commodities, I understand the purpose of the analogy - how viable are someone's chances for getting with somebody they want? One site even offers market tests for both men and women:
I have to say, the article of the site and some of the comments come off to me as being a $@^&head. If you pick the wrong answer for questions:
Or if you go too many questions wrong:
What do you think of this idea, that some people should "save their cash" and not get into the "dating game", but find a different pursuit? Does the author come off as harsh, or is he dead on the money?
Dating is a "marketplace" because how it works is that women use their youth, beauty, and sexuality, as a bargaining chip to pair up with the males who have the most resources. To be fair, once a man becomes successful, they will equally seek out the hottest, youngest (within legal age) women they can find.
I'm not saying that people don't truly care about each other. But generally speaking, you will never find a woman as good looking as Kim Kardashian with a janitor, and you will never find a man as successful as Donald trump with an elderly, overweight, unattractive woman.
So again, dating is a marketplace because single people are in a open competitive arena either trying to market themselves or trying to buy something.
Dating is a "marketplace" because how it works is that women use their youth, beauty, and sexuality, as a bargaining chip to pair up with the males who have the most resources. To be fair, once a man becomes successful, they will equally seek out the hottest, youngest (within legal age) women they can find.
I'm not saying that people don't truly care about each other. But generally speaking, you will never find a woman as good looking as Kim Kardashian with a janitor, and you will never find a man as successful as Donald trump with an elderly, overweight, unattractive woman.
So again, dating is a marketplace because single people are in a open competitive arena either trying to market themselves or trying to buy something.
I know lots of successful guys. It is rare to see them with someone who is the youngest, just for the sake of that quality alone. In fact I'd say more times than not they are with women closer to their own age.
Hollywood may present a different image of course.
I know lots of successful guys. It is rare to see them with someone who is the youngest, just for the sake of that quality alone. In fact I'd say more times than not they are with women closer to their own age.
Hollywood may present a different image of course.
America prohibits men from having "minor wives". In countries where successful men can have multiple women, the women are usually younger.
There might be truth to dating being a marketplace (and I can see the analogy). But the tests seems a bit ridiculous--more for humor, parody, or entertainment than anything serious.
Agreed.
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Originally Posted by Frihed89
These references are crap. Of course things of value are exchanged in markets for other things of value. That's also true in relationships, I believe. But it is rarely about money. Relationships are a bit harder because a number of the things of value that are traded are "joint" goods: you consume them together, not alone: sex with your man, vacations together, going to movies or live music shows together, even raising kids together. Often we trade joint goods we don't especially like (visiting with the mates family) with our mates for things we do like and they might not like as much as we do (maybe even sex). But it's not conscious. It's not brutal. No money changes hands. It's just considered being a good partner, or thoughtful, or sweet. But it's still an exchange of things of value.
Repped.
I agree that dating can be seen as a marketplace, job interview, negotiation of assets (intangible, not just concrete ones)-but I loathe the site referenced in the OP.
I had a look at it & the tests several months ago when I first joined CD & there were a raft of threads about said site.
The idea seemed sensible at first, but pretty quickly I found it reprehensible instead. I didn't complete the test for women, just looked through the list of q's & the scoring.
Yes, I can be accused of sour grapes bc. I'm not the optimal female according to that site's algorithms-but I believe I'd be similarly offended even if I did meet those narrow parameters.
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