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Men have to be the proactive ones. So generally if a man doesn't go out and approach women he has no shot, I mean no women are going to go out of there way and approach you anyway. Women don't have to do anything but just go out in public and put themselves in social situations
Yes, this is true. Which is why women have it easier.
I agree and I did not vote either. When conducting a poll one must consider all of the possibilities. 0 and -1 seem very reasonable to me as well as a +10.
I am curious to hear how satisfied people are with their romantic pursuits. In other words, how well does you romantic life measure up to the idealized version in your mind? If you are particularly satisfied or particularly disheartened, I'd like to hear your reasoning.
I don't really have an "idealized version" in my mind. Every relationship is different, good and bad about them all. However, I voted a 9, based on the fact that I am have had several good relationships and am happy in my current one, and unless something really awful happens, I think we'll be each other's last partner.
(And a 9 rather than a 10, because I am so independent that sometimes I just want to be by myself! )
I voted "1". Never have had a romantic life but that is because i believed myself to be unlovable for many years even though i had several women friends. Yet i was 40 pounds overweight and deemed myself to be homely. I have come to understand the irrationality of my thinking. I also know how to deal with these negative thoughts when they occaisionally arise. I now believe myself to be decent looking. I get checked out, eye contact, smiled at, etc. In NYC when on a photoshoots. I wish i got the same at home. As for approaching women, i never have because i believed no woman would want to be approached by me. I was recently advised that thinking this way was lying to myself. After some thought i came to the conclusion this was correct. After all women liked me when i was fat and homely so why not now? That some of these ladies didn't become girlfriends was my own fault due to my negative thinking. I do not blame women for my singleness one iota. As for who has it easier in dating, i have no idea. I have seen both sides struggle. There are some men and women who find it easy and some men and women who don't. All this finger pointing and resentment gets us nowhere. Anyway, in closing i hope i am going in the right direction and happiness is the light i see at the end of a very long tunnel.
Many of you apparently don't understand what "scale of one to ten" means. It means one is the worst.
So if 0 or -1 (or -5,000 or 49 or the square root of 3 or 9/16 or pi) is the worst on whatever scale you are using, that is the same as 1 on this scale.
If you are as dissatisfied as you could possibly be with your romantic life, your answer to this poll is 1.
I put down a 1 because I don't have a romantic life right now so I am not satisfied at all (all I have is my one way interest in a man who sees himself as my friend--I think. I don't know. He's confusing to me.). But I am still hopeful I will find someone. It's just not easy, but you know what they say... the best things in life aren't necessarily easy.
Ask me again when I find a good man who loves me and whom I love. I bet I will say a 9 or something (not a 10 because I don't expect perfection).
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Maybe so, but women in general do have it easier than men do.
It's easy if I want to date
1) A man who lied and is actually married
2) A man who insulted me, called me old and then tried to stick his tongue down my throat
3) A man who thinks the world is going to end soon and has a stockpile of weapons, medications, food, etc in a secret bunker
4) Hooked up with some random guy in the street with who knows what kind of STDs
Quantity of men asking one out doesn't equal quality. I rather be asked out less by the ones I listed. I suppose you could say at least I am being asked, and yes, that's good. But it's a lot of bad dates to filter though to find a good man. I think it's harder for a man to ask out a woman, but at least with that approach you get to choose and in that regard, you trade more opportunities to date with less, but potentially higher quality dates.
I did get to go out with one very nice man in that time. But it turned out he already was in temporary housing and was leaving for Afghanistan for several years (works for the State Department). So that wasn't really a potential romantic relationship. But we did have a very nice date.
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