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I can understand her position considering it was her last chance and she was desperate.
"If a woman is financially secure and decides to have a child then I don't see an issue with how she gets pregnant"
To me that could reflect how important it was to her to have a father in her childs life vs a test tube.
My friend adopted two children from China. She wanted to be a mother, and rather than find any old guy to do the deed, chose to be a single mother. Should women who don't have partners have to forego parenthood simply because they haven't found the right person to create children with, and therefore fathers aren't important?
Since I am a woman who dates men I will switch it around to would I date a man who intentionally became a single father through surrogate and the answer is (this will surprise people)yes, assuming the surrogate isn't in the picture. Now, would I date a man who donated sperm? good question and not sure what I would say.
That is a good question. In good concience I don't think I could be a sperm donor. something in the back of my head says I have a child that is part of me out there?
Besides, in some states and countries I could be held financially responsible for a child that I never met?
That would be a very logical decision. I can understand that outlook. For me I would have to balance the need for a child to connect with his bio parent vs. how bad of an infuence the bio parent is. For whatever the reason, the need for a Father seems to be marginalized further and further every year in modern society.
I do tend to agree here too. Specifics would matter, such as how old the child is, whether they have a strong male figure in their life, etc etc. So details will always matter in case by case examination. A strong, positively influential father is very important to a child.
From the standpoint of dating a woman with a child, however, and if the goal was to develop a LTR or potentially lead to marriage, then no bio-dad would generally be favorable if the existence of one causes a lot of strife... and I see far more seperated parents in constant strife than I see them harmoniously share their child. (I know a good number of seperated parents).
My friend adopted two children from China. She wanted to be a mother, and rather than find any old guy to do the deed, chose to be a single mother. Should women who don't have partners have to forego parenthood simply because they haven't found the right person to create children with, and therefore fathers aren't important?
Same could apply to men, who adopt or would hire a surrogate, and therefore mothers aren't important?
Even if I did date single mothers, I would be hesitant to date a AI mother. She has show that she doesn't care for her kids to have a father in her life. She has shown she basically thinks the father is useless part of a childs upbringing. So why would I have a kid with a mother with those viewpoints? I'd much rather prefer a single mother who was divorced.
That is a good question. In good concience I don't think I could be a sperm donor. something in the back of my head says I have a child that is part of me out there?
Years ago I considered being an egg donor and ultimately decided against it partly because of that. I would always wonder if I had a biological child and it would depress me especially if I never had a child.
Even if I did date single mothers, I would be hesitant to date a AI mother.She has show that she doesn't care for her kids to have afather in her life. She has shown she basically thinks the father is useless part of a childs upbringing.So why would I have a kid with a mother with those viewpoints? I'd much rather prefer a single mother who was divorced.
I have no problems dating single mothers, and I share this view to a point. If the woman "really" has the viewpoint that a "father is worthless" than why should I date her? That would imply she would also think that her own father was worthless
In the case of the woman I work with and most women I imagine, it's more a case of running out of time combined with not finding an eligible man. This, I am fine with.
If anything, I'd have more respect for a woman who chose to have a child alone than one who chose to have a child with a deadbeat loser, which seems to happen more often.
It's an odd question. It seems to imply that an artificial type of conception might make a woman less desirable than just using some random guy as a sperm donor without telling him about the child. That's not uncommon, but you don't see people on forums asking whether having done that places a stigma on the mother.
I can understand her position considering it was her last chance and she was desperate.
"If a woman is financially secure and decides to have a child then I don't see an issue with how she gets pregnant" To me that could reflect how important it was to her to have a father in her childs life vs a test tube.
I think every women wants their child to have a father but getting pregnant by a guy does not mean your child will have a father in their life.........I'm an example of that.
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. In good concience I don't think I could be a sperm donor. something in the back of my head says I have a child that is part of me out there?
