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I met a girl who really seems to like me, in some ways i'm not even sure why. I like her a lot too.
I'm having difficulty deciding whether to call her back, text her, etc and how to do it.
I also want to delay seeing here for at least 3 weeks for personal reasons, and need a good excuse on how to do that.
Maybe i'm an idiot, but i have some difficulty on the whole asking her out, etc. To complicate things further she lives 4 hours away.
She seems to find me a bit mysterious. Should i keep conversation to a minimum or kill the mystery by letting her get to know me?
If you want to keep her, but not see her for 3 weeks... talk to her and keep in contact for those 3 weeks and tell her you can't go out for a little while due to personal reasons.
On the first date (once you get there), ask her about herself. Listen to what she says, and ask more questions. Share a little about yourself. Back and forth, like that. DO NOT monopolize the conversation. The purpose of the date is so both people can get to know each other. You can't get to know her if you're doing all the talking. On the other hand, if you're too quiet, she can't get to know you. It's a balance.
I also want to delay seeing here for at least 3 weeks for personal reasons, and need a good excuse on how to do that.
If you don't tell her the real reason now, she will probably dump you when she finds out you misled her (or dump you right away if you just say personal reasons'). You would be demonstrating that you don't trust her, and that she cannot trust you.
By the time 3 weeks pass, she will have different boyfriend, unless you have given her a good reason to wait.
I also want to delay seeing here for at least 3 weeks for personal reasons, and need a good excuse on how to do that.
You can always plan something in advance without specifying that you need to do personal things for the next three weeks (unprompted that just sounds weird). This is probably easier than if she lived a half hour away. However, I'd suggest having something specific to do, not just "hey, let's hang out on July 21st," because I'd be wondering why someone needed to plan general hanging out three weeks in advance.
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She seems to find me a bit mysterious. Should i keep conversation to a minimum or kill the mystery by letting her get to know me?
No. Just let the conversation flow naturally. You don't have to give her super detailed answers to everything, but you want to talk enough that she feels like it's a conversation and not an interrogation.
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