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He has good reasone to be suspicious, and it's sufficiently serious that it will almost certainly affect his behavior, but he also realizes he needs confirmation before making accusations or decisions. He can ask his wife using his existing test results as the reason for questioning, and knowing that he will surely want to obtain proof, she may tell him the truth.
He has good reasone to be suspicious, and it's sufficiently serious that it will almost certainly affect his behavior, but he also realizes he needs confirmation before making accusations or decisions. He can ask his wife using his existing test results as the reason for questioning, and knowing that he will surely want to obtain proof, she may tell him the truth.
I think what people are objecting to here is not that he is suspicious but that his first assumption is that his wife cheated.
Here's the thing, OP: What will happen if you move forward under the assumption that your wife cheated before you get the DNA test done?
I'll tell you what will happen. If your wife didn't cheat and those kids are yours, she's going to wash her hands of you. So proceed very carefully or you're going to implode your family - and it could very well be for nothing.
So stop wallowing in self-pity and investigate DNA tests.
I still don't understand why you are determined to believe that your wife has been unfaithful? Why does that seem like the preferable outcome to you, compared to the possiblity of a potentially sketchy semen analysis being inaccurate?
You just seem very determined to grasp onto the worst possible outcome and embrace it as truth without investigating further. What has your wife done to you that you so quick to envision her as metaphorically poisoning you, and why in God's name would you ever have married somebody whom you are so inclined to distrust?
I am not sensing much love for the wife either, since he suggested they were just acquaintances when they married.
I am giving low odds on this marriage surviving, regardless of the outcome of the testing, due to trust issues and disordered thinking on the part of the OP.
Fertility treatment. Most men with Klinefelter syndrome are unable to father children, because no sperm are produced in the testicles. Some men with Klinefelter syndrome may have some minimal sperm production.
-From Mayo Clinic.
This doesn't really make any sense. I've gone through IVF with my wife. The first thing they do is test your sperm for both quality and count. If you were infertile this would have raised a red flag with them immediately and the clinic would have informed both you and your wife. Every time I did the fill up the cup thing I was given a count and a quality report. The procedure was the same at all three clinics we dealt with.
This doesn't really make any sense. I've gone through IVF with my wife. The first thing they do is test your sperm for both quality and count. If you were infertile this would have raised a red flag with them immediately and the clinic would have informed both you and your wife. Every time I did the fill up the cup thing I was given a count and a quality report. The procedure was the same at all three clinics we dealt with.
I suspect he never had any sperm count tests and is relying on Dr Google for his diagnosis.
I'd go on the theory that the kids are yours since the condition doesn't necessarily mean you're sterile. I believe you're considered sterile if your sperm count is below a certain amount, which doesn't mean you and your wife can't conceive. I'd be more concerned for the kids and I'd have them tested for the condition. Of course, if the above theory is incorrect, you'll find this out when the kids are tested. I'd let your wife know about the results and that you're going to get a second opinion. Bring up that the kids need to be tested at some point. I'd only suspect if she balks at this request. Some people don't want to know any bad news, which can explain some hesitancy.
I am not sensing much love for the wife either, since he suggested they were just acquaintances when they married.
I am giving low odds on this marriage surviving, regardless of the outcome of the testing, due to trust issues and disordered thinking on the part of the OP.
Right. He just doesn't like his wife.
If you want out OP, I suggest you file for divorce BEFORE you ask for paternity testing.
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