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I'd skip that step and get the DNA test if it's upsetting you so much.
Agree. It's a simple and inexpensive test, and can be bought in many drug stores. You send off the samples and find out soon after. This is the only way to truly know the reality, and rules out any source of uncertainty, no matter how unlikely.
You should be able to trust your spouse. I had the UTI from hell that would not go away. Dr kept prescribing anti-biotics at first. Then decided I had some STD. I insisted it wasn't because I've only been with my husband in over a decade. Dr was patronizing and said my SO probably hadn't been faithful. I went ahead with the testing and they came back clean. It was just an unusual strain of UTI that wasn't responding to the first few prescriptions.
At no point did I assume that my husband had slept with someone else and infected me with something. If you trust your spouse, your first assumption just isn't that they cheated on you.
An STD is not comparable to a baby because its possible that you kept the STD dormant for years in your body. If the doctor says you are infertile then you have a kid, you should investigate it. None of this "trust" BS. The truth is more important than trust. I bet you that plenty of people really trusted their spouses before finding out their spouses betrayed them.
I agree with the rest of the posters: Get tested when you are able to.
Not quite the same, because of the preganancy, but I have an uncle/aunt split up do to infidelity by both parties(Quasi open marriage from what I understand). He never spoke to his adopted children after the split, even though he raised them. It's really a shame, because he was really a great dad to my aunts kids from her first marriage. All of the kids suffered badly afterwards.
An STD is not comparable to a baby because its possible that you kept the STD dormant for years in your body. If the doctor says you are infertile then you have a kid, you should investigate it. None of this "trust" BS. The truth is more important than trust. I bet you that plenty of people really trusted their spouses before finding out their spouses betrayed them.
I didn't say don't investigate whether the child is his. I went ahead and got tested anyway. My point is that when you trust your spouse, you don't assume they cheated on you.
I didn't say don't investigate whether the child is his. I went ahead and got tested anyway. My point is that when you trust your spouse, you don't assume they cheated on you.
You don't assume that she cheated, but you don't also assume that she can be trusted also. Trust but verify.
Why did you think you were infertile to begin with?
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I went ahead with the testing and they came back clean. It was just an unusual strain of UTI that wasn't responding to the first few prescriptions. 
